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Friday the 14th – It’s all about film…

Wednesday, November 12th, 2014

If you’re a lover of independent film then this week is your week to step into the inner west for a special treat or two. Max Black is proud to be a part of these two great (and LOCAL) film events…

 


 

1557138_554591184669661_3221973565837278717_oStarting From Now – Series 3 Launch

This six part online drama follows the entangled and messy lives of four strong, lesbian women in Sydney.  Starring Bianca Bradey, Sarah de Possesse, Rosie Lourde, and Lauren Orrell.  Created and directed by award winning film maker and writer, Julie Kalceff.

With over 3 million views on Vimeo (and counting) Starting From Now is one of the most successful queer online series to come of out Australia, and we are so proud it’s local not just to Sydney, but to Newtown! Join the cast, director and writers at the official Series 3 launch.

Doors: 6.30pm – 11.30pm   |   Tickets: $25 + booking fee

Buy: Sticky Tickets  |  Website: www.startingfromnowtv.com

Can’t make it to the launch – download Series 3 from Vimeo On Demand from Friday 14th November at vimeo.com or catch up with the first 2 seasons at www.startingfromnowtv.com/watch/

 


 

evil_girls_2-600x400Love Hard – Screening at Pervfest

LOVE HARD is a work of docu-portraiture from local filmmakers Sensate Films about BDSM and intimacy. In its inquiry into the loves and lives of 5 subjects, it presents unique, articulate, and thoughtful perspectives on how kink can function in our lives – as a practice of art or intimacy, as a mode of expression or release, as an iteration or an obliteration of self, as a way to play, a way to fuck, a way to love, a way to be ordinary.

LOVE HARD + Live Q&A with director Gala Vanting and cast
Doors: 8.30pm/Start 9pm  |  Tickets: $15/$10 + booking fee
Buy: http://www.trybooking.com/110369   |   Website: http://lovehardthefilm.com/

 


 

The Gathering 2014 – the 6 workshops you shouldn’t miss

Wednesday, September 17th, 2014

The Gathering returns to Sydney this October with over 40 brilliant kinky workshops amongst a host of some very glamorous fetish events. With so much to choose from we thought we’d help by talking about the 6 workshops we’re recommending to customers and friends of MB. These are all suitable for beginner to intermediate players and run by some the community’s most respected and talented teachers.

If you take advantage of The Gathering’s multi-workshop pass you can attend any four of these for one low price or register for the whole weekend, go to all the workshops you can and also get access to the parties and social events!

1. Sensual Rope Connectionsrope

Presented by Mark, Aleni & Lani De Viate

There is much more to a great bondage scene than good-looking (or technical) rope work. Energy and connection begins the rope scene before the first rope is even laid against skin, and continues throughout the entire rope embrace. Learn how to transmit your energy, enforce your energy, express your dominance, and get the best from your rope partner.
Engage in a journey that includes this dynamic team sharing their thoughts and experience in the sensuality of rope and concludes with a guided meditation with a twist that defines the mindfulness needed to find your own pathway to connect with rope and partner.
Join Mark, Lani and Aleni as they delve into the erotic connection between top and bottom and learn to use your energy to leave your bottom always wanting more.

cane2. All About The Cane

Presented by Mistress Electra Amore
Mistress Electra Amore, an accomplished caning mistress who has toured the world showcasing her skills, is joining The Gathering for the first time.
“It took me years to actually pick up a cane and use one. It scared the hell out of me – they used to use it during my school years. But when I started, it morphed in my hand as if it was an old friend and each of my, even, accurate and precise strokes were all measured and delivered with a natural force”.
During this workshop you’ll explore the cane –  including the different styles, thickness’, and the ideal length for you. You’ll also learn some of the fundamental things such as cleaning, storing and maintaining them. But the most important thing you will learn is how to deliver a meaningful and accurate disciplinary stroke – with love and skill.

3. Spankingspank

Presented by Zoe Montana
Zoe Montana certainly knows a bit about spanking. She is a professional spanking mistress who has starred in much classic British spanking porn: ‘Tammy’s Shame’, ‘Punishment by Proxy’ and ‘Whipping Boy’ are just a few.
Her Spanking class was one of the top 5 classes of the 2012 Gathering in terms of popularity.
Zoe returns in 2014 to show how you can use spanking as a great addition to a scene – or a scene all of its own…

4. Fantasy Into Realityscene

Presented by Aleni De Viate
“I’ve dreamt of this. Waited so long for it to finally come true, and now….” If you are just starting out, stepping off the ledge of fantasy into the free-fall of actually playing, this class is for you.
Exploring the elements that will make your first “kink scene” a success, you’ll discover ways to make it more intimate, less intimidating, and absolutely achievable.
Be privy to the mind of a dominant who has created many successful first scenes for budding sub missives over the years, and learn what it takes to turn your fantasies into your reality.

dom5. Women On Top: Starting Your Dominance

Presented by Mistress Electra Amore
Do you have an undesirable urge to be in charge? Does the thought of taking the lead excite you? Do you have a need to exert your Dominance?
Maybe you’re not sure where to start or how to go about it, or have you taken that step and found yourself in a bit of trouble, like many others when they first start to explore their Dominant nature – regardless of their age. Well, here is your chance to step into your Dominant side.
A professional Dominatrix, Electra will be sharing her personal journey and experiences, giving tips, advice and demonstrations and empowering you to take control – where it really matters.

flog6. Percussion Play – Flogging, Caning & Paddles OMG!

Presented by Aleni Di Viate
An introduction to that part of BDSM most people first think of – the art of Corporal Punishment.  It looks mean, but it doesn’t all have to really hurt.This class covers a wide range of techniques – from how to give a sensual flogging through to heavy discipline pain play.
Aleni, one of Sydney’s finest Dominants,  talks about safety issues, topping (do-ing) techniques, how this play works for those on the receiving end and will provide you with hands on instruction. This class gives you lots of information and fun for both Do-ees and Do-ers.

So there you have it – 6 sensual, stimulating workshops we just can’t recommend strongly enough. For more info on The Gathering and the available workshops visit their website thegathering.com.au.

Max Black’s School of Kink – School Starts August 5th!

Friday, August 1st, 2014

It’s common knowledge that knowledge makes sex better so it gives us the ultimate pleasure to announce that Max Black’s The School of Kink opens this August with three fabulously fetish workshops for beginners.

Partnering with the indomitable Miss Dee from Sydney’s home of BDSM Uber Services, the School of Kink will bring a variety of workshops to Max Black based purely on what guests at MB have been asking for. We’ve designed each new workshop to give you the most comprehensive, fun and interesting introduction to areas of kink that we all know and love (or want to love).

The first workshop events will be:

Introduction to Spanking : Tuesday August 5th at 7pm

Tempt & Tease : Tuesday August 12th @ 7pm

Introduction to Rope Play : Tuesday August 19th @ 7pm

Introduction to Rope Play : Wednesday August 20th @ 7pm

Click on a link to go to maxblack.com.au for all the details plus tickets.

Are You Kinky?

Thursday, January 12th, 2012

Social Norms

Are you kinky?  That question could be answered in any variety of ways depending on who you ask.  Kinky is as kinky does and your degree of kinkiness is defined by what you consider kinky.  What may be vanilla sex to some people may be fetish play to others.

Every society develops norms, rules and standards for behavior.  The same is true for sexual behavior.  These standards vary from one society to the next, as well as in historical periods.  They result in dividing people into mainly two groups: those that conform and those who deviate from the “norm”.  In our current society, those that conform would fall into the category of vanilla sex, while those that do not would be called deviants or kinky.  What may be acceptable to one society during a certain place and time may be a crime in another.  In other words, human sexual behavior is a cultural construct, influenced by what a particular society deems acceptable.

In Western culture, our sexuality has been seriously repressed from the time we are young children and often lasts long into adulthood.  These inbred social taboos often plague people with guilt and insecurities, effectively stopping or slowing their exploration of “forbidden” desires.

Pop Culture

Yet, many women have at one time or another read an “erotic” novel and gotten turned on by it.  These Harlequin Romance types of stories usually have themes of conflict and surrender, in which the woman is swept away by a handsome rogue often by force as she cries, “No! No!” while inside she shivers with ecstasy.  Countless horror films turn the tables and put the woman in charge as the evil seductress who lures the man into their web of sex and deceit.  We have Scream Queens, Damsels in Distress, Vamps and Femmes Fatale, all icons of popular culture that hint at the hidden desires we have buried inside.

More and more “vanilla” partners are exploring their sexuality by living out their fantasies and discovering various types of sexual “play”.  From rough sex, to blindfolding, to playful spanking, KINK or BDSM is more mainstream than ever.

Fantasy

As children we learn to fantasize and play games to act these fantasies out.  When we become adults, many of us lose this ability to play.  But, being an adult does not mean you should deprive yourself of your sexual fantasies.  Acting out fantasies and role-playing can create greater trust and intimacy between partners as well as help them to achieve a more sexually fulfilling and exciting sexual life.

According to Nancy Friday, many male and female sexual fantasies revolve around submission and dominance, or some surrender of control.  Many sexual practices that are associated with paraphilias (or deviant sex) are becoming widely recognized as different and diverse forms of sexual play, or kinky sex, rather than a form of psychological deviancy.  When practiced safety, sanely and between consensual adults, these acts are considered by most to be just another form of sexual expression.

Types of Kink

Kink includes a wide spectrum of activities that are almost always eroticized by the participants in some fashion. Many of types of kinky activities can be found under the umbrella of BDSM, which include — but are not limited to — forms of dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, bondage, sexual role-playing, sexual fetishism, sadomasochism, and power exchange, as well as the full spectrum of mainstream sexual interactions.

Role-playing

Role-playing is exactly what it sounds like: each partner takes on a usually complementary, but unequal, role in which they enact personas and sexual fantasies. Typically, one is the top or dominant (the giver) and one is the bottom or submissive (the receiver), but these roles and activities are also interchangeable.  Special forms of erotic role-play include age play, Doctor/nurse or Nurse/patient, Master/slave, Teacher/schoolgirl, puppy and pony-play, Goddess/worshipper, Punisher/victim, play rape scenarios as well as many others.

Dominance and Submission

Have you ever had someone hold your hands down while having sex?  If not, I highly recommend it as it is incredibly erotic.  My first experience with this was how I found out I was “slightly” kinky.  The simple action of holding someone down while have sex—rough dominant sex, if you will—is a form of dominance and submission.  Doesn’t sound too kinky does it?  Actually, sounds kind of fun!  Now, if one were to add silk scarves or rope to tie you to the bedposts, that would take this one step further and you might think that was rather kinky, but maybe still doable.  Or maybe you are getting wet just thinking about it?  What is important with any type of kinky play, or dominance and submission, is that you talk about your fantasies together, decide your wants and limits, and do so conscentually.

Bondage

As mentioned above, bondage, even being held down while having sex, can be for some people highly erotic.  The term “Bondage” describes the practice of restraining for pleasure.  Bondage, while kinky for some, is only another type of sexual expression for many couples or play partners, even in vanilla relationships.  Types of bondage include using rope, hand cuffs, spreader bars, or even suspension.  Another more “extreme” type of bondage is mummification in which someone is wrapped in plastic wrap or placed in bondage bags.  Muzzles, hoods and even ball gags are also considered bondage because they are in some way restrictive.

Sensation Play

Sensation play is a sensual way of touching your partner that is a wonderful form of erotic foreplay.  It can consist of tying someone up and tickling them with a feather, rubbing fur or silk over their flesh while blindfolded, pouring hot candle wax on your partner’s skin to turn up the heat, using ice cubes to awaken and entice, or applying a pinwheel or other sharp instruments of torture to add an element of danger and excitement.  Sensation play can add a level of eroticism that can bring your arousal to new heights of pleasure and passion.

Spanking

Spanking is also another popular kinky practice that has made its way into mainstream vanilla sex.  Spanking is a form of percussion play which is another form of touching someone that can be wildly erotic.  It can include anything from light, playful spanking to flagellation with whips and paddles, to caning, flogging and everything in between.  One person’s pain is another person’s pleasure.  People who enjoy percussion may have spanking fantasies they’d love to fulfill.  Many men and women enjoy the fantasy of being punished for real or imagined “bad behavior”.  Some people enjoy being put into a submissive position, while others enjoy the physical sensation of getting their backside (or other sexual parts) warmed up.

Of course there are literally hundreds of types of kink, including a long list of fetishes and paraphilias that one could explore or desire.  One person’s kink is another person’s vanilla.

So, are you kinky… yet?

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Source: popmycherry.com

Author: Domina Doll

Fun: History’s Kinksters

Saturday, September 18th, 2010

Since it seems like every movie star, athlete and politician is just a sex scandal waiting to happen, you could almost think that it’s not possible to be a prominent person without also having an utterly depraved sex life behind the scenes.

And looking back at some of the great people in history… well, you’ll see…

1. ALBERT EINSTEIN

Time Magazine’s ‘Man of the Century’ is the most famous scientist in history, and perhaps you wouldn’t think that the emporer of all geekdom would be as popular with women as he was the US military but…when he wasn’t splicing atoms he was the biggest womaniser in science. Married twice (once to his cousin) he cheated on both women with at least ten others. In his defence Einstein did present his wives with a list of rules that included “expect neither intimacy nor fidelity”.

2. MOZART

Was a child prodigy that gave us some of the greatest music of all time but behind closed doors Mozart wasn’t always writing one of his 600 masterpieces. Letters to female cousins reveal a distinctly dirty side, one that he even shared in leters with his mother (though in a more joking tone). Yes the genius who brought us Piano Concerto #24 had a penchant for penning dirty lyrics which is best summed up from his party ballad “Lick My Ass”:

Lick my ass nicely,

lick it nice and clean,

nice and clean, lick my ass.

That’s a greasy desire,

nicely buttered,

like the licking of roast meat, my daily activity.

Three will lick more than two,

come on, just try it,

and lick, lick, lick.

Everybody lick his own ass himself.

3. JAMES JOYCE

The author of Ulysses is considered the height of modern literature. But in the days before sexting, iphones and friendface Joyce and his wife would send each other dirty letters. He often shared his erotic interest in his wife’s flatulence with lines like “It is wonderful to f*!@ a farting woman when every thrust drives one out of her”.
Hmmm.

4. JOAN CRAWFORD

This oscar winner and infamous mother struggled her entire life to control and maintain her perfect ‘hollywood’ image, but her off-screen shinanigans are as enduring as those eyebrows. Her film career started in the 1920’s when she danced naked in short arcade peep show films (which she tried in vain to cover up), but it was her penchant for rough ‘play’ and her indiscriminate taste for both men and women that really got people talking. Betty Davis once said that she had “slept with every star at MGM, of both sexes”. Naughty then, but today that’d probably get her a reality show on cable.

5. PERCY GRAINGER

You may not know much about the man whose contribution to classical music is still being felt today, but Grainger once earned the equivalent of $3 million a year. When he passed away he left his money to the University of Melbourne, but he also donated countless photos of himself, 83 whips and a pair of his own shorts – because he was a huge fan of BDSM. Percy had an entire room of his mansion covered in mirrors so he could watch his wife dominate him, taking pictures of the whole scene. He meticulously chronicled every session. Organised AND Kinky.

6. LAWRENCE OF ARABIA

When he wasn’t conquering Damascus or promoting independent Arab nations, Lawrence was pitching tents in the desert courtesy of a man named John Bruce. Lawrence would pay Bruce to whip him with a stick and then write up a detailed account of the beating. (more…)