Posts Tagged ‘help’

Wild Hide Deluxe Harness – the new video

Thursday, August 28th, 2014

It’s no secret that Max Black loves Wild Hide. This fantastic Australian leather workshop has been working with us for over 5 years now and their leather harness products are some of our all-time best sellers!

Every one of them is hand crafted by talented leathersmiths in sunny Queensland with a beautiful attention to detail that delivers soft, sensual and thoroughly practical strap on harnesses.

Want to see more? Wild Hide have been busy creating how-to videos on the Deluxe Harness (called The Wild Hide Harness at MB). It’s worth a watch if you’ve ever wanted to know how these little wonders work…

Christina Spaccavento: Libido, sex drive, sexual desire – where has it gone?

Friday, June 8th, 2012

Libido…Sex Drive…Sexual Desire! Call it what you want but where has it gone??

From clinical experience, I’ve found that clients in committed, long-term relationships often present in my counselling room with complaints relating to reduced, low or non-existent sexual desire. And it is not uncommon that clients present after years of conflict regarding one partner’s sexual desire and/or availability.

But before we get started it is important to understand exactly what Sex Therapists are talking about when we refer to “sexual desire”.  To keep it plain and simple sexual desire can be understood in a couple of ways. The first and most common understanding suggests that sexual desire is an innate biological drive that motivates individuals to seek out sexual stimuli or activity.  Many of can relate to this of course; it’s those times when you say to yourself “I just want sex!” The second interpretation sees sexual desire as an external force that manifests in the potential partner rather than from an internal need within the desiring self. In my own experience with clients, I’ve found that people can show both innate and external desire and this can occur interchangeably within their relationships.

So why do people struggle with sexual desire? What are the causes? It is important to acknowledge that there can be multiple physical, medical, psychological, emotional and social factors contributing to this phenomenon.

You may have heard friends, family, colleagues or even strangers talking about why their mojo just won’t show. These may have been factors such as long working days, exhaustion, children, lack of privacy in the family home, relationship problems such as anger at the other partner, or a significant life event, communication problems, substance abuse, anxiety and depression, illness, certain medications, prior sexual abuse, gynaecological problems or even a primary medical problem such as Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD). And while this seems like a long list, it is by no means exhaustive. Unresolved problems relating to sexual desire can prove catastrophic to both the sexual and non-sexual relationship in long-term relationships. In a situation where people might be feeling strain in their relationship, this may be a good time to see a health practitioner that can assist and offer support.

Sex therapists use a number of techniques that can be used to address sexual desire issues. General education about the anatomy and physiology of the body and sexual techniques can be very helpful when people have limited or no knowledge about. We also give our clients sensual touch homework exercises involving touching, caressing and non-coital massage. Who would have thought homework could be so much fun? The aim of the game is to help couples recapture their sexual intimacy and work towards rebuilding that physical connection that may have been neglected due to any problems that may have arisen in the relationship. Communication! Communication! Communication! You guessed it, being able to communicate and negotiate our needs and wants, both sexually and more generally within the context of the relationship is also important as an influencing factor in upping “that thang”.

It is important to remember that working with sexual issues also involves working with relationships. Sexual and relationship issues can exist on their own. However, relationship problems can cause sexual problems and sexual problems can cause relationship problems and is not always easy to know the links between relationship and sexual problems.

The information discussed in this article offers some brief information and a few simple suggestions about how I work with low sexual desire.  But one size does not fit all and each individual and/or couple will no doubt benefit from an individualised and client centered consultation with a qualified and experienced Sex Therapist and/or Relationship Counsellor.

For academic references please feel free to email me at christina@sstherapy.com.au

Christina is one of the very talented sex therapy professionals that MaXXX Black recommends. For information about sex therapy and counselling we encourage everyone to read our Community Links page.

The Sex Coach: True Intimacy

Saturday, June 25th, 2011

Self help books, women’s magazines and traditional therapists extol the virtues of intimacy as the way to improve your relationship and therefore have better sex. The two key aspects to this ‘intimacy’ are:  1) to become more connected by spending more time together, and 2) to communicate (by speaking) every little thing about yourself, and conversely listening wondrously in rapt attention agreeing in perfect accord with every utterance.

Which would imply most of us haven’t got a snowflake’s chance in hell of having a decent sex life…

Fear not. You can breathe a sigh of relief because this means that in fact you will avoid that stifling arrangement of co-dependent ‘intimacy’ we too often think is the prerequisite for ‘happily ever after”.

Now certainly intimacy does require connection and communication, but it’s the how, the what and the how much that matters. Let’s look at the two fundamental aspects of intimacy – connection and communication – debunk a few myths and look at what really matters.

First, connection. Supposedly we need to have lots of quality time together to feel intimate. But in fact you don’t have to even be physically near each other to feel connected. Especially in this digital age there are myriad ways to connect without being physically present. Even when you are together, it doesn’t have to be ‘quality’ time, i.e. time that is spent highly focused on each other, more of that rapt attention stuff. Just spending time together in an unfocused hanging-out kind of way can actually be a better way of enjoying each other’s company than high intensity time together. (How often have you seen couples in restaurants eating without speaking? Not a lot of intimate connection going on there. They’d be better off doing the gardening together or going for a walk where there is more distraction, less intensity and surprisingly more ease of connection).

We’re also supposed to improve our ‘connection’ by sharing common interests and learning to enjoy those that aren’t in common. Well, that’s not necessary either. While it’s good to have some interests in common, you don’t have to have everything in common, and there’s no onus on you to learn to like those that aren’t. There’s nothing wrong with having different interests, it doesn’t mean you’re not suited, it doesn’t mean you’re not close. Quite the opposite, maintaining connection in the face of difference is bonding if you respect and appreciate the difference.

This can be intimidating for some people though. They fear that sense of separateness. They fear that if they’re not fused they could lose the other person. These people become jealous and fiercely attached to their partner. Any sense of flirting is felt as potential or actual infidelity and is the hovering angel of death to the relationship. There is no trust, only a desperate clinging. This is not true intimacy.

It’s also intimidating because of the threat of rejection. If your partner is different to you then they may not agree with you and that can be a frightening thing. It’s scary to know that the person whose opinion you value the most and whose agreement you crave might reject your thought or action or opinion. Shock, horror, that could cause disharmony, and we all know that the “perfect relationship” is harmonious.

It might be, but not through fear of difference, only through appreciation of difference. If you’re holding yourself back and not expressing your true self, not living with a sense of integrity, because you fear your partner’s disapproval and crave their validation, then you are not being truly intimate.

When you interact like this you cannot have good communication, that quality so espoused by the self help gurus. Look, of course communication is essential, it’s how it’s done that matters. Too often communication is equated with speaking, whereas communication is effected through so many ways, not just spoken. Even considering the verbal aspect, more is communicated through tone of voice and body posture than the actual words (which is why arguing never works because the arguers are reacting to the tone not the content). But communication also occurs through touch, looks, through silence, through action, and definitely through sex. In fact when a couple have truly intimate sex they communicate their inner beings far more profoundly than any conversation could ever do.

Receiving the content of the communication is also crucial to effective conveying of meaning. But what is receiving content and how are you expected to respond? When the communication is spoken, listening openly to the other person is important, but it doesn’t have to be in rapt wonderment, affirming every utterance in mutual accord. Listen with respect, certainly, but not under any pressure to agree.

Just as importantly, being open to communication in non-verbal ways is essential to true intimacy, you can’t just expect verbal cues. Your partner expresses feelings and thoughts constantly, in actions, gestures, moods, silences, and of course, in making love with true intimacy.

Even being open to this type of communication requires true intimacy, because it requires you to show your real self without needing validation from the other person, and without feeling that you have to give it to the other person. True intimacy is not expressed through jealousy, fear or anxiety.

True intimacy requires integrity of your self. You need to show yourself and be seen. To do that you need separation, difference, distance, a sense of ‘other’.

This is essential for good relationship, and it is essential for good sex. Why? Because only with true intimacy can you express your sexuality without fear of rejection or displeasure by your partner. It’s only when you can truly know and express your eroticism that you can enjoy the other key element to extraordinary sex: erotic tension.

Advice: Feeling Sexy When Pregnant

Saturday, May 14th, 2011

While a mother-to-be can take great pride in her budding form, feeling sexy in it can be another matter entirely. With pregnancy one of the most sensual times in a woman’s life, its becomes a peak time to cultivate feelings of sexiness that can invite more action at a critical point in a relationship. With sexual activity during pregnancy very much predicting just how well couples will do together post-birth, staying sexy and intimate is very important to the family in the long-term. Thankfully, there are plenty of ways for an expectant mum to feel like one hot mama with every trimester.

Don’t let the urge to purge define your sexy feelings over the long term.
Admittedly, sexy feelings can escape some moms in favor of good old morning sickness. While praying to the porcelain god may seem to quelch your hopes for an arduous affair with anything other than your toilet bowl, it is possible to maintain some sense of sensuality even in the pangs of nausea by focusing on the process and the feelings one at a time, breathing through them and using them as tools to get in tune with your body’s internal workings.

Decrease the severity of your morning sickness by eating plain, dry crackers and other simple, easy-to-digest foods, drinking fluids between snacks, and consuming foods and drinks with ginger root, like ginger tea or candy.

Don’t resign yourself to sarmassophobia or malaxophia – a fear of love play.
If you secretly long for sex and frequently forego the urge simply because it seems tiresome, you may want to delve a little more deeply. If you’re opting out, but still feeling deprived of intimate touch, contact and sex, failing to find out why will leave you feeling insecure isolated and worse about yourself and your sex life.

Sleep as much as your body demands.
Hormonal fluctuations and other physical and mental issues can take a toll on the hottest mammas. So get your beauty sleep!

Get yourself a bellymask.
This plaster gauze sculpture is a recreation of your pregnant torso. Available through www.bellymask.com, these heirlooms will be a powerful reminder and celebration of your role in the circle of life, and will make for a perfect gift for your newborn one day.

Go commando.
Shun panties, wear skirts, and go crotchless, especially if your vulva is all hot’n’bothered from increased blood flow to the pelvic region. This may also help keep you from chafing against the crotch of your pants or panties.

Practice Dhurga breathing.
This advanced technique can be helpful in regaining control and calm during emotionally trying times. Always remember to be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself the room to cry when you really need to, but don’t get lost there. You can get sucked into the ‘poor me’ routine faster than you might imagine and that’s certainly going to do nothing for your sex life or hot mamma mode. Caving to these impulses has the potential to possibly foil some tender moments with your lover later, so it’s important to have a quick and easy way to reground and take control of yourself.

Don’t beat yourself up for plowing through that tubs of Ben & Jerry’s or bag of Doritos.
Don’t forget, curvy is hot. Then work it off with an extra long session in the boudoir!

Practice sexy preggy mantras.
Feeling great about your pregnant body is probably the most important part of staying sexy during pregnancy. Celebrate the life you’re carrying, reveling in the thrill of it. Your body is a miraculous mechanism of life-giving energy blossoming into the earthy, maternal energy so magnetic that others may actually stop to do a double take.

Be patient with your third trimester sexual response.
Vaginal contractions during T3 sex are likely to be weaker, thereby lowering your sexual response cycle and making orgasm more difficult, if not impossible to attain during sex play. Complicating issues further, orgasmic uterine contractions have the potential to be discomforting and aggravating rather than pleasurable for women in T3. Be accepting of your response, and know that you’ll be back to your old sexual self in just a few weeks’ time!

Don’t give into notions that preggie isn’t sexy!
With sexual response enhanced for many, this is your time to test untried thought processes and maneuvers. Challenge yourself to think outside of the oft too-tight box into which society forces woman with child. Your ability to be sexy comes down to how YOU choose to see your pregnancy and express your sensuality – and nobody else.

Overall, be sure to maintain a healthy diet and a self-care routine, which includes exercise, massage, meditation, yoga, and pampering. This is a time when you can get in tune with your earthy nature as never before and these activities will help you to tap your core.

Finally, splurge on some outfits that help you to feel sensual and sexy. Women will often feel guilty about such purchases, but the financial costs outweigh the emotional price of not splurging.

Author: Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright PhD for bettersexnetwork.

Guide: Multiple Orgasms

Monday, April 11th, 2011

It can seem like a woman’s experience of multiple orgasms has taken on an almost cult-like status. For some women they are an enjoyable reality and for many others the experience remains elusive. So what is a multiple orgasms? Is it real? Can you achieve them?

What is a Multiple Orgasm?
Multiple orgasms are a series of sequential orgasmic experiences that occur in quick succession. And when it comes to multiples, women have the biological upper hand over men. This is because unlike men, women don’t experience a refractory period (the period of time after men ejaculate when they can’t be aroused). So women can and do respond immediately after orgasm to more (or hopefully continuous) clitoral, vaginal, and G-spot (that small, raised bump of urethral tissue just inside your vagina along its front wall) stimulation.

Sign Me Up!
Women can “teach” themselves to have multiple orgasms. Here’s how you can up your chances of having multiples.

  • Learn your body. You have to crawl before you walk; you have to have one orgasm before you can have multiple orgasms. Get to know your body’s hot spots and not-spots. This is the essential foundation to sexual response.
  • Practice. It takes practice (both by yourself and with your partner) to achieve multiple orgasms. It’s sort of like learning to have your first orgasm. You have to immerse yourself in fantasy, or do whatever it takes to get you aroused, and you have to use lots of lubrication so that you can keep trying for more orgasms by stimulating all of your genital area, while focusing your attention to your clitoris, vagina, and G-spot.
  • Toys, lubricant and intensifying gels work wonders.  Here at MaXXX we have the whole range to make things fun and a whole lot easier to acheive muliple orgams.
  • Slow down, and use lots of foreplay, especially foreplay that focuses on clitoral stimulation.
  • Get some rest beforehand. Often, experiencing multiples is limited by your lack of sleep. After one orgasm, many women feel relaxed. So relaxed, that they may want to drift off to sleep. But if you are well rested, you can resist that sleep temptation, and work for another orgasm, and another, and another.
  • After the first orgasm, the orgasms “come” easier. It might take10 to 15 minutes to reach your first orgasm, but your second can occur in as little as five minutes, and your third in only two minutes. Keep going as long as you’re having fun.

Female Ejaculatory Orgasm
Priming yourself to have multiple orgasms may also prime you for experiencing an ejaculatory orgasm, that almost mythical female sexual phenomenon. Because all of the erectile tissue in your genital area, including your G-spot and clitoris, is already swollen and more sensitive from having been stimulated to orgasm, you may be better able to achieve ejaculation.

Yep, you read that sentence correctly. Although it’s not well known, many women, like men, can ejaculate.

Most women who experience ejaculation do so through direct stimulation of their G-spot, though some women also experience ejaculation through stimulation of their clitoris. Basically, when a woman’s G-spot is directly stimulated, it can cause a pleasurable sensation and eventually an expulsion of fluid , either in drips or gushes, from your urethra. The ejaculate fluid isn’t urine, rather it’s a liquid produced and released from the paraurethral glands (surrounding the urethra).  So don’t worry — unless you’re fooling around on silk sheets, you’ve got nothing to worry about!

Online dating etiquette

Saturday, April 9th, 2011

More of us are turning to the internet in our search for ‘The One’. From specialist social networks like Fetlife to traditional services like E-Harmony that promise big results there are literally hundreds of virtual worlds where you can hopefully find that perfect partner.

Here’s a short guide to choosing a reputable dating service, find like-minded individuals and meet up safely.

Finding a service

Do

  • Check that your online dating service offers background checks  on their members; many of the major ones will tell you if they do this on their safety pages, although this isn’t that common yet in Australia
  • Persevere – success doesn’t always happen overnight.
  • If you are unhappy about the way things are going, contact the website as soon as possible to give them a chance to rectify the situation.
  • Check what age group the majority of members are in. Some services are targeted at young people or young professionals  in particular.

Don’t

  • Join the first online dating website you find. Some are free, whilst others have a subscription fee. Look around for popular sites that are reasonably priced.
  • Join a service that refuses to give you details of its fees on the phone or on its website.
  • Part with any money unless you are certain the site is reputable and trustworthy.

Creating your profile

Do

  • Have a separate email address that you are happy to put on your profile for everybody to see.
  • Upload a couple of up-to-date photos – but make sure they’re ones you wouldn’t mind your mother seeing!
  • List your interests and hobbies. You could also add a paragraph describing who you’d like to talk to and what you’re looking for.

Don’t

  • Put your telephone number or home address on your profile.
  • Misspell or write in CAPITALS. This can come across as rude or pushy.
  • Be disheartened if you don’t get many emails at first. Writing a good profile takes practice. Try to sound positive and add some interesting facts about yourself.

Finding the right person

  • Use the search function to find people who live locally or who have similar interests.
  • If the service has a forum, particapate  in discussions.
  • Be proactive. If you find someone you like the sound of, don’t be afraid to email them first.

Emailing somebody

Do

  • Chat about your interests and ask about theirs.
  • Respond promptly. If you’re not interested, just send a polite: “Thankyou for your message but I’m unable to chat with you at the moment”

Don’t

  • Give out your bank details or important personal details.
  • Hesitate to block or report someone if they harass you or send unwanted emails.

Beware of

  • Scammers who will try to gain your trust before claiming to be ill or stranded abroad and desperately in need of money. Others may say they want to meet you but don’t have enough money to travel.
  • People who are in inconsistent with their details. Sometimes, married men use online services and lie by pretending they are single.

Arranging the first meeting

  • Try to have several telephone conversations or email exchanges so that you know a little more about each other before you meet.
  • Don’t meet at your home or their home. It’s far safer to meet in a public place during daylight hours, e.g. afternoon coffee or a quick lunchtime drink.
  • Don’t accept a lift to or from the date – make your own way there and back.
  • Take a mobile phone with you.
  • Tell a friend whereyou’re going and when to expect you home.

On the day

Do

  • Be positive – a cheerful attitude to life is much more appealing than a negative one.
  • Be polite if you decide you don’t want to meet up again. Don’t promise you’ll ring if you have no intention of doing so.
  • Be yourself – don’t pretend to be something you’re not!

Don’t

  • Talk endlessly about your failed relationships – it can be off-putting!
  • Drink too much, even if you are nervous. Although it’s unlikely, try and get your own drink and look after it to ensure it isn’t spiked
  • Feel pressurised into starting a physical relationship if you don’t think the time is right.

Four Ways To Give Her Bigger Orgasms

Saturday, April 2nd, 2011

Her body is amazing.

It’s a finely orchestrated collection of systems working in tandem. Her clitoris is an assembly of nerves, so vast and deeply imbedded into her pelvis that we call it the clitoral complex. Her lips and vulva tissue become engorged with touch and thought. She has erectile tissue, glandular tissue and blood vessels all chiming in as she becomes aroused. Her G spot is near the opening of her vagina, on the navel side of her vaginal canal. At her perineum, the bit of connective flesh between her vagina and sphincter, you find a wealth of responsiveness. It is packed with more erectile tissue but is also a direct connection to the eight muscles that form her pelvic platform. Those muscles are the massive force behind every orgasm she experiences.

Like I said, her body is lush.

Each woman will have a unique response to your touch and her response may change over time as she explores her body and goes through natural life cycles.  Here are four techniques for getting the most out of her body.

1) Slow Your Roll
Our brains are naturally wired to find the fastest way to get things done. When it comes to her orgasm however, it’s important that you fight that urge and slow down. Because the bulk of a woman’s responsive tissue is inside her body and not easy to manually stimulate, it takes longer for her (compared to the male body) to become fully sexually excited. Her mind may be ready, but her body needs more. The average woman requires 20 minutes of stimulation before her tissue (erectile, glandular and vascular) is fully engorged. Most often couples will jump into intercourse before her body is really ready for that kind of play, making it difficult for her to reach orgasm from penetration alone.

You want to tease and flirt until she is just about begging for more. Try adding more kissing, heavy petting, and stimulating her through her clothing. Add more hands, mouth and toys into your play. Using a vibrating toy on her clit, vulva and perineum will deliver deep tissue stimulation and will definitely speed up this process. Use lube so that her inner and outer skin can stand up to the extended play.

2) Tell Her
Through out her entire life, she has been receiving subtle negative messages about her body and her sexuality. She may have heard people say women smell bad, or that only certain “types” of girls perform particular sex acts, or countless other judgments on the appearance of the female body. As her partner, it’s important that you tell her what you love about her body. You are probably the only person to ever tell her how beautiful she is during sex play. Remind her that she can let go and give into her sexual response with you.

3) Steal Her Moves
Encourage her to touch herself.

Some woman feel very shy about this so it may help if you let her know it’s cool with you. If she does choose to touch herself during sex play, watch what she is doing – and steal her moves. She’s teaching you what works for her.

4) Subtle Undercurrents are Strong

Sex is full of subtleties. Most women are not going to be screaming and pounding her fists in ecstasy. Sure some women do, but many will not.

Watch her body. Let her breathing patterns, hip movements and pelvic muscular response guide you.

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An orgasm, for a person of any gender, is a series of muscular contractions – the stronger her pelvic muscles are, the stronger her orgasm will be.  If she is pumping her muscles rhythmically during sex play she will be pulling more blood and oxygen into her entire pelvis. The deeper breaths also fuel her response.  Throughout all of your sex play, tune in to the subtleties of her body. Encourage her to pump her muscles and breathe deeply for you. There is nothing sexier than a partner who is so deeply engaged in their lover’s experience.

Happy Orgasms Everybody!

Why & Where: The G Spot

Thursday, February 17th, 2011

It’s been called a myth (big lie), it’s been celebrated by millions, and it’s still being discovered for the first time by women all over the world. The G-Spot has the power to baffle, bewilder and more importantly, delight. Below we share the images and information that we explain to first-time customers many times every day.

Firstly, EVERY woman has a G-Spot. It’s the Urethral Sponge, and it is located inside the vagina.

Location

Located on the front side of the vagina, about the average length from the tip of your finger to the second knuckle.

The G-Spot is a zone about 1 to 2 inches in diameter, closest to the clitoris. You’ll feel a change in the texture of the vaginal wall.

Arousal

Before you start – tinkle – you’ll be much more comfortable during play. Then, start with some foreplay. Foreplay is ESSENTIAL. The sensitivity of the g-spot and clitoral arousal are closely linked, so starting with some focus on the clitoris is a great way to begin exploration.

When you feel you have reached a state of arousal through some clitoral play, then it is time to go for the g-spot. G-Spot stimulii requires a firm pressure – use a strong touch or a solid/firm sex toy.

Toys & Lube

G-Spot toys need to be firm, slightly curved and look like they can reach up like a finger in a ‘come here’ gesture. Size does not really matter – it’s the angle and pressure that is important.

Your sexploration will be much easier with the right kind of lubricant. Lube makes everything more sensual and tactile and will help increase your sensitivity and pleasure.

Why & Where: The Clitoris Explained

Wednesday, February 16th, 2011

Sometimes it’s the basics that get people confused. One of the major things we do here everyday at MaXXX Black is educate men and women about their bodies.  We try to give you as much information as possible about the enjoyment of sex, and a big part of that is knowing your bodies.

The information and images below are what we use many times every day, and you may be surprised to know that 95% of our first-time customers have never seen them before. Today is all about the…

1. Female Anatomy

The Clitoris

Located where the labia meet at the top of the vulva, the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female genitals. It is situated beneath a thin protective fold of tissue called the clitoral hood (or prepuce). The glands here are dense with nerve endings (about

twice as many as are in the penis!) and can be incredibly sensitive to touch. Some women may even find it direct stimulation too intense without sufficient arousal (that’s foreplay).

Contrary to popular belief the clitoris doesn’t stop there. It extends down a shaft into a wishbone shape called the

Crura (picture 2). Each ‘leg’ is about 3 inches in length and lie directly beneath the labia.

Arousal

When a woman becomes aroused, the clitoral shaft becomes erect and engorges with blood. Then the ligaments (corpus cavernosum) pull the clitoral head into the hood for protection. The crura then engorge and as such are possible to stimulate through penetration.

Most women find that direct stimulation to the clitoris, increasing the speed and pressure over time, is the best way to reach orgasm.

Pic 2 -The Clitoris (Internal View)

However, every body is different, so it’s very important for women to experiment with and explore their bodies.

Finding what works best for you can help you reach your sexual potential.

Vibrators & the Clitoris

Vibrating toys are an ideal way to explore and discover your clitoris and how it works for you. From gentle exploration to intense stimulation (& everything in between) a vibe can help you and your partner get to know your body and achieve better sex with deeper satisfaction. Don’t forget to pick up a good quality lubricant (NO KY) to use with your toy. It will make your play so much easier, sexier and satisfying.

Advice: Low Density Love vs High Density Love Part 2

Monday, November 29th, 2010

This article is courtesy of Dr Michael Wayne, a modern natural health therapist who established Quantum-Integral Medicine…

In yesterday’s article I began to dissect this crazy little thing called love.

I said how these are complicated topics, full of pitfalls and entanglements, mishaps and risks, and also much bliss and happiness.

I love you - in sign language

I love you - in sign language

I also said how it’s the arena in which we can become most vulnerable, in which our deepest intimacies can become known; it can also be the arena in which our buttons are pushed to the max.

So let’s delve deeper into it. I’ll also explain why I believe that people who live a Low Density Lifestyle have a better chance of entering into lasting relationships and having better sex.

We are all social animals, and everyone desires to have a social network of friends, family, loved ones and significant other that you desire to spend time together with.

Strong relationships are a vital component of a healthy and happy life, while negative relationships can impact health and happiness in a detrimental manner.

When you are living a Low Density Lifestyle, you are naturally attracted to other people who are also living a Low Density Lifestyle, and it is these people who will make up your most intimate social network. If you feel centered, balanced and in the flow, you won’t readily enjoy the company of people who live a completely opposite lifestyle, as it will just be too jarring to your soul.

Interestingly though, people who live a High Density Lifestyle will be naturally attracted to those who live a Low Density Lifestyle, because the calmness and peacefulness of someone living a Low Density Lifestyle is something that can help to balance and center someone living a High Density Lifestyle.

It can actually be a profoundly transformative experience if someone living a High Density Lifestyle allows themselves to open up to the energies and calming influence of someone living a Low Density Lifestyle. So this is truly one case of opposites attracting!

But the tricky thing is that for those living a Low Density Lifestyle, the desire is to have happy and harmonious relationships, and they will go out of their way to find them and to reject relationships that create unhappiness and disharmony.

So it’s not impossible for people on opposite ends of the spectrum to come together—after all, the chemical bond of love transcends all boundaries and overcomes all limitations—it’s just that if you want to have a sustaining and lasting relationship, there needs to be a bonding of two souls, one in which each person can gaze into the other’s eyes and see the reflection of the deep and infinite waters of the Zero-Point Field, which is the origins of universal love and consciousness.

Communication is a big part of a relationship, and failure to communicate is a major reason for breakups. To be able to communicate, each party in a relationship needs to feel loved and safe. Each person in the relationship also has to let go of expectations and not judge or criticize the other, but instead help them to feel comfortable being able to communicate.

Communicating your deepest and most intimate thoughts and feelings is not easy, but if you feel safe and loved, and feel that what you say won’t be held against you, then it is easier to speak from your heart. This happens easiest when both people in the relationship are living a Low Density Lifestyle.

If one or both people in the relationship are living a High Density Lifestyle, then it’s a lot harder, because there’s no feeling of safety in expressing intimate thoughts. These are the relationships that are doomed to fail.

Another important part of a strong and lasting relationship is the sex life. Because those living a Low Density Lifestyle are healthier and more balanced, less stressed and more in the flow, they have the capability of having a strong sex drive and having better sex.intimacy-sex-couple2

They understand that sexual desire is a natural biological urge, as opposed to a feeling that one should be ashamed of or should repress. They know that sex, and orgasm, make both parties feel good and is a vital part of making love. In addition, sex allows for intimacy and expressions of love, and these are things cherished by those living a Low Density Lifestyle.

For many people living a High Density Lifestyle, the only time when they’re able to relax and feel comfortable having sex is when they imbibe in alcohol or recreational drugs, because these allow them to relax their inhibitions and feel less stressed.

Although sex can be very enjoyable when performed in an altered state, an important part of the sexual experience is the feeling of intimacy that one person has with another, because in that state of intimacy, a strong bond is formed between both people and the flow of love, happiness and joy circulates and is expressed between them.

When a person is having sex in an altered state, the flow is impeded. But unfortunately, for many people living a High Density Lifestyle, having sex while in an altered state is the only way they can get full enjoyment of the act of making love.

Another great aspect of sex is that it increases your chances to be healthier and happier. People who have a regular sex life have been found to have a decreased risk of heart disease and stroke, a decrease in pain in the body, and an increase in life span.

These are enormous motives for having a healthy sex life, but the reality is that in order to have a healthy and happy sex life, it is best that both people involved live a Low Density Lifestyle.