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The Gathering 2014 – the 6 workshops you shouldn’t miss

Wednesday, September 17th, 2014

The Gathering returns to Sydney this October with over 40 brilliant kinky workshops amongst a host of some very glamorous fetish events. With so much to choose from we thought we’d help by talking about the 6 workshops we’re recommending to customers and friends of MB. These are all suitable for beginner to intermediate players and run by some the community’s most respected and talented teachers.

If you take advantage of The Gathering’s multi-workshop pass you can attend any four of these for one low price or register for the whole weekend, go to all the workshops you can and also get access to the parties and social events!

1. Sensual Rope Connectionsrope

Presented by Mark, Aleni & Lani De Viate

There is much more to a great bondage scene than good-looking (or technical) rope work. Energy and connection begins the rope scene before the first rope is even laid against skin, and continues throughout the entire rope embrace. Learn how to transmit your energy, enforce your energy, express your dominance, and get the best from your rope partner.
Engage in a journey that includes this dynamic team sharing their thoughts and experience in the sensuality of rope and concludes with a guided meditation with a twist that defines the mindfulness needed to find your own pathway to connect with rope and partner.
Join Mark, Lani and Aleni as they delve into the erotic connection between top and bottom and learn to use your energy to leave your bottom always wanting more.

cane2. All About The Cane

Presented by Mistress Electra Amore
Mistress Electra Amore, an accomplished caning mistress who has toured the world showcasing her skills, is joining The Gathering for the first time.
“It took me years to actually pick up a cane and use one. It scared the hell out of me – they used to use it during my school years. But when I started, it morphed in my hand as if it was an old friend and each of my, even, accurate and precise strokes were all measured and delivered with a natural force”.
During this workshop you’ll explore the cane –  including the different styles, thickness’, and the ideal length for you. You’ll also learn some of the fundamental things such as cleaning, storing and maintaining them. But the most important thing you will learn is how to deliver a meaningful and accurate disciplinary stroke – with love and skill.

3. Spankingspank

Presented by Zoe Montana
Zoe Montana certainly knows a bit about spanking. She is a professional spanking mistress who has starred in much classic British spanking porn: ‘Tammy’s Shame’, ‘Punishment by Proxy’ and ‘Whipping Boy’ are just a few.
Her Spanking class was one of the top 5 classes of the 2012 Gathering in terms of popularity.
Zoe returns in 2014 to show how you can use spanking as a great addition to a scene – or a scene all of its own…

4. Fantasy Into Realityscene

Presented by Aleni De Viate
“I’ve dreamt of this. Waited so long for it to finally come true, and now….” If you are just starting out, stepping off the ledge of fantasy into the free-fall of actually playing, this class is for you.
Exploring the elements that will make your first “kink scene” a success, you’ll discover ways to make it more intimate, less intimidating, and absolutely achievable.
Be privy to the mind of a dominant who has created many successful first scenes for budding sub missives over the years, and learn what it takes to turn your fantasies into your reality.

dom5. Women On Top: Starting Your Dominance

Presented by Mistress Electra Amore
Do you have an undesirable urge to be in charge? Does the thought of taking the lead excite you? Do you have a need to exert your Dominance?
Maybe you’re not sure where to start or how to go about it, or have you taken that step and found yourself in a bit of trouble, like many others when they first start to explore their Dominant nature – regardless of their age. Well, here is your chance to step into your Dominant side.
A professional Dominatrix, Electra will be sharing her personal journey and experiences, giving tips, advice and demonstrations and empowering you to take control – where it really matters.

flog6. Percussion Play – Flogging, Caning & Paddles OMG!

Presented by Aleni Di Viate
An introduction to that part of BDSM most people first think of – the art of Corporal Punishment.  It looks mean, but it doesn’t all have to really hurt.This class covers a wide range of techniques – from how to give a sensual flogging through to heavy discipline pain play.
Aleni, one of Sydney’s finest Dominants,  talks about safety issues, topping (do-ing) techniques, how this play works for those on the receiving end and will provide you with hands on instruction. This class gives you lots of information and fun for both Do-ees and Do-ers.

So there you have it – 6 sensual, stimulating workshops we just can’t recommend strongly enough. For more info on The Gathering and the available workshops visit their website thegathering.com.au.

Are You Kinky?

Thursday, January 12th, 2012

Social Norms

Are you kinky?  That question could be answered in any variety of ways depending on who you ask.  Kinky is as kinky does and your degree of kinkiness is defined by what you consider kinky.  What may be vanilla sex to some people may be fetish play to others.

Every society develops norms, rules and standards for behavior.  The same is true for sexual behavior.  These standards vary from one society to the next, as well as in historical periods.  They result in dividing people into mainly two groups: those that conform and those who deviate from the “norm”.  In our current society, those that conform would fall into the category of vanilla sex, while those that do not would be called deviants or kinky.  What may be acceptable to one society during a certain place and time may be a crime in another.  In other words, human sexual behavior is a cultural construct, influenced by what a particular society deems acceptable.

In Western culture, our sexuality has been seriously repressed from the time we are young children and often lasts long into adulthood.  These inbred social taboos often plague people with guilt and insecurities, effectively stopping or slowing their exploration of “forbidden” desires.

Pop Culture

Yet, many women have at one time or another read an “erotic” novel and gotten turned on by it.  These Harlequin Romance types of stories usually have themes of conflict and surrender, in which the woman is swept away by a handsome rogue often by force as she cries, “No! No!” while inside she shivers with ecstasy.  Countless horror films turn the tables and put the woman in charge as the evil seductress who lures the man into their web of sex and deceit.  We have Scream Queens, Damsels in Distress, Vamps and Femmes Fatale, all icons of popular culture that hint at the hidden desires we have buried inside.

More and more “vanilla” partners are exploring their sexuality by living out their fantasies and discovering various types of sexual “play”.  From rough sex, to blindfolding, to playful spanking, KINK or BDSM is more mainstream than ever.

Fantasy

As children we learn to fantasize and play games to act these fantasies out.  When we become adults, many of us lose this ability to play.  But, being an adult does not mean you should deprive yourself of your sexual fantasies.  Acting out fantasies and role-playing can create greater trust and intimacy between partners as well as help them to achieve a more sexually fulfilling and exciting sexual life.

According to Nancy Friday, many male and female sexual fantasies revolve around submission and dominance, or some surrender of control.  Many sexual practices that are associated with paraphilias (or deviant sex) are becoming widely recognized as different and diverse forms of sexual play, or kinky sex, rather than a form of psychological deviancy.  When practiced safety, sanely and between consensual adults, these acts are considered by most to be just another form of sexual expression.

Types of Kink

Kink includes a wide spectrum of activities that are almost always eroticized by the participants in some fashion. Many of types of kinky activities can be found under the umbrella of BDSM, which include — but are not limited to — forms of dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, bondage, sexual role-playing, sexual fetishism, sadomasochism, and power exchange, as well as the full spectrum of mainstream sexual interactions.

Role-playing

Role-playing is exactly what it sounds like: each partner takes on a usually complementary, but unequal, role in which they enact personas and sexual fantasies. Typically, one is the top or dominant (the giver) and one is the bottom or submissive (the receiver), but these roles and activities are also interchangeable.  Special forms of erotic role-play include age play, Doctor/nurse or Nurse/patient, Master/slave, Teacher/schoolgirl, puppy and pony-play, Goddess/worshipper, Punisher/victim, play rape scenarios as well as many others.

Dominance and Submission

Have you ever had someone hold your hands down while having sex?  If not, I highly recommend it as it is incredibly erotic.  My first experience with this was how I found out I was “slightly” kinky.  The simple action of holding someone down while have sex—rough dominant sex, if you will—is a form of dominance and submission.  Doesn’t sound too kinky does it?  Actually, sounds kind of fun!  Now, if one were to add silk scarves or rope to tie you to the bedposts, that would take this one step further and you might think that was rather kinky, but maybe still doable.  Or maybe you are getting wet just thinking about it?  What is important with any type of kinky play, or dominance and submission, is that you talk about your fantasies together, decide your wants and limits, and do so conscentually.

Bondage

As mentioned above, bondage, even being held down while having sex, can be for some people highly erotic.  The term “Bondage” describes the practice of restraining for pleasure.  Bondage, while kinky for some, is only another type of sexual expression for many couples or play partners, even in vanilla relationships.  Types of bondage include using rope, hand cuffs, spreader bars, or even suspension.  Another more “extreme” type of bondage is mummification in which someone is wrapped in plastic wrap or placed in bondage bags.  Muzzles, hoods and even ball gags are also considered bondage because they are in some way restrictive.

Sensation Play

Sensation play is a sensual way of touching your partner that is a wonderful form of erotic foreplay.  It can consist of tying someone up and tickling them with a feather, rubbing fur or silk over their flesh while blindfolded, pouring hot candle wax on your partner’s skin to turn up the heat, using ice cubes to awaken and entice, or applying a pinwheel or other sharp instruments of torture to add an element of danger and excitement.  Sensation play can add a level of eroticism that can bring your arousal to new heights of pleasure and passion.

Spanking

Spanking is also another popular kinky practice that has made its way into mainstream vanilla sex.  Spanking is a form of percussion play which is another form of touching someone that can be wildly erotic.  It can include anything from light, playful spanking to flagellation with whips and paddles, to caning, flogging and everything in between.  One person’s pain is another person’s pleasure.  People who enjoy percussion may have spanking fantasies they’d love to fulfill.  Many men and women enjoy the fantasy of being punished for real or imagined “bad behavior”.  Some people enjoy being put into a submissive position, while others enjoy the physical sensation of getting their backside (or other sexual parts) warmed up.

Of course there are literally hundreds of types of kink, including a long list of fetishes and paraphilias that one could explore or desire.  One person’s kink is another person’s vanilla.

So, are you kinky… yet?

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Source: popmycherry.com

Author: Domina Doll

Product News: Douglas Kent’s Shibari Land Back In Stock!

Thursday, August 25th, 2011

A few months ago the publisher’s of Douglas Kent’s Complete Shibari instructional books gave us the bad news that they were going out of print. The resultant rush of customers all over the world trying to get their hands on one of the last copies pushed prices for the Land volume well above $150 in the United States.

Well, the good news is that all that interest has sparked a re-print of both volumes, and as of today, Douglas Kent’s Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land, is back in stock!

And no, we’re not charging $150 a copy.

It’s only $50.00 and if you’re a rope enthusiast you can’t do much better than this wonderful book, complete with step-by-step instructions and images.

Product News: Douglas Kent’s Shibari Land Back In Print

Sunday, July 31st, 2011

It’s been unavailable in oz for some time now so when the publisher of Douglas Kent’s best-selling Complete Shibari Land told us it’s coming back we were very excited!

Land explores the essential ground-based ties and forms of shibari. With short, clear explanations and over 440 lavish, step-by-step illustrations and photographs, Douglas Kent introduces the basic “building blocks”, then guides you in applying those basics to create a full range of beautiful and exciting ground-based shibari ties.

This is not a “knot book” – if you can tie an overhand knot, you already know half the knots you’ll ever need. This practical, hands-on guide to doing shibari covers everything from choosing and preparing rope, to scene safety, to the techniques… and the reasoning behind the techniques.

Since going out of print the book has reached prices as high as US$190 as fans of rope tying and bondage do their best to get their hands on the very limited number of copies still out there.

All that changes on 29th August, when we will get a whole new stack of copies!!! Mark the date in your diary – you don’t want to miss out!

Uber Relaunch – BDSM Workshops Galore!

Sunday, March 6th, 2011

Uber Services is Sydney’s most glamorous and distinguished bdsm venue. Since 2006, they have been hosting parties and providing the best play space for BDSM enthusiasts in the city.

Uber has been quickly evolving since then and anyone who was lucky enough to see Uber1 and Uber2 will be delighted to know that the latest Uber venue is now open!

The marvelous people behind The Gathering conerence in 2010 have custom built an amazing play space and venue in Sydney’s Inner West – only minutes from the city centre in a safe, discreet new building.  It houses new play spaces and areas designed for the latest workshops, special events and speakers.

Satomi - Tokyo Love Doll

In 2011 we can expect to see the likes of  Satomi (Tokyo Love Doll), the amazing Midori and Laura Antoniou coming in to hold special events.

Now that they’re back there’s a whole heap of new workshops being offered, and we highly recommend anyone who is interested to click over to their website for more information.

Upcoming Workshops can be found at:

http://www.uberservices.com/education-sydney-workshops.html

Congratulations Uber on the new space!

New Books: Douglas Kent’s Complete Shibari

Saturday, February 5th, 2011

Some people think it’s suprising that so many Australian’s are getting into some type of bondage or rope play, but when books like Douglas Kent’s Complete Shibari not only make it easier, but also show just how beautiful, sensual, and fun it can be – it’s not really that surprising.

It’s taken some time for these two books to get an Australian release, and since he happens to be the author of one of our most popular rope books “Shibari You Can Use” , we were VERY keen to get a look at what the online reviewers call “the best of the best”. And we were not dissapointed.

So it is with a naughty gleem in our eye that we introduce you to two books that will change your rope play forever:

Complete Shibari Volume 1: LandComplete Shibari Volume 1 – Land

Land explores the essential ground-based ties and forms of shibari. With short, clear explanations and over 440 lavish, step-by-step illustrations and photographs, Douglas Kent introduces the basic “building blocks”, then guides you in applying those basics to create a full range of beautiful and exciting ground-based shibari ties.

This is not a “knot book” – if you can tie an overhand knot, you already know half the knots you’ll ever need. This practical, hands-on guide to doing shibari covers everything from choosing and preparing rope, to scene safety, to the techniques… and the reasoning behind the techniques.

Complete Shibari Volume 2: SkyComplete Shibari Volume 2 – Sky

Sky builds on the material from Volume 1: Land and explores the spectacular techniques of erotic rope suspensions.

With short, clear explanations and over 340 lavish, step-by-step illustrations and photographs, Douglas Kent takes the intimidating world of shibari suspensions and makes it practical and straightforward.

If you are, have been, or want to be a rope enthusiast make sure these two books are in your naughty library!

Fun: The History of Bondage in Mass Media – Wonder Woman

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

Wonder Woman was the first real female super hero to be created.  And, like the many who followed in her footsteps, she was an emancipated woman (she appeared on the cover of Ms. Magazine and was a feminist icon) who fought against the “bondage” (both real and literal) of women by patriarchy.  Unlike the strong and negative archetypes of the femmes fatales of the 30s and 40s who were sexual objects of male desire that paid for their independence often with death, Wonder Woman and her predecessors fought man’s continuing efforts to keep them enslaved.

Ah, Wonder Woman.  I can remember growing up and watching the TV show Wonder Woman and thinking how hot Linda Carter was.  Buxom, brunette, with bullet reflecting bracelets, a boomerang tiara and a skimpy swim-suit style costume, I adored her.  Unfortunately, Wonder Woman had a bad reaction to chloroform and ended up getting herself into bondage a lot.  Here’s a video from the show of her bound in chains, which she easily breaks to make her escape.

History of Wonder Woman

Wonder Woman was created by Dr. William Moulton Marston for DC Comics in 1941 and has been continuously published by DC Comics ever since.  She is a superherione Amazon Princess who belongs to the ancient warrior race of Amazons and Marston modeled her as a “distinctly feminist role model whose mission was to bring the Amazon ideals of love, peace, and sexual equality to ‘a world torn by the hatred of men…’  Marston wanted to create a positive role model for girls that would serve as a counter to the high level of violence and the “blood curdling masculinity” he felt pervaded superhero stories… [in which] women were typically portrayed as helpless and in need of rescuing, or as sexy, buxom pin-ups models, often in provocative bondage poses.”—The Legacy of Wonder Woman

Among some of her amazing powers were super strength, speed, stamina, the ability to fly and she was also skilled in hand-to hand combat being an Amazon Warrior and all (obs!).  Despite her strength and wondrous powers, she did have one deadly weakness: “if her bracelets are bound together by a man, she loses her powers.  In countless stories, she is chained and bound by male villains, only to break free and triumph. The ropes and chains are symbols of patriarchy and the drama is her ability to break the shackles of male domination they symbolize. Unfortunately, most comic historians have ignored the feminist elements of the series, and focused on these elements of bondage, reducing the complexity of Marston’s Wonder Woman mythos to little more than a thinly disguised sadomasochistic sexual fantasy.”—The Legacy of Wonder Woman

One “source” suggests that her tribe was enslaved by Hercules who seduced their Queen into removing her invincibly girdle, and once rescued by Artemis, where forced to wear their metal bracelets to remind them of their enslavement to man.

Whether symbolic or not, bondage became a big theme in the pulp comics of Wonder Woman and she fueled people’s fantasies of bound damsels, as well as fantasies of Amazon women, and emancipation after suffrage.  Oddly enough, the Amazons also practiced bondage on other women on Transformation Island (a small island near the Paradise Island—Wonder Woman’s home—which served as a rehabilitation facility for reforming criminals).  There was also a dominant/submissive lesbian mythos to Wonder Woman’s character that was scarcely hidden in the island’s training methods.  Wonder Woman thus became the very epitome of the buxom damsel in distress in bondage and perpetrator of those acts on other buxom villains that Marston supposedly was trying to reform.

So Wonder Woman is an incredibly complex dichotomy who went on to inspire many similar heroines, some with super abilities and others who were super sleuths, all of whom ended up in bondage at some point.  These include Emma Peel from the Avengers, 99 from Get Smart, Charlie’s Angels, the Bionic Woman, Lois from the Adventures of Lois and Clarke, Buffy the Vampire Slayer and of course Xena: Warrior Princess, who is perhaps a modern remake of the iconic Wonder Woman character.

Do you think Wonder Woman was an emancipated character as her creator Marston had hoped, or is she only a thinly veiled reason to put “strong” women in bondage during the 40s and 50s, which may have been symbolic about American patriarchal views and attempts to control women?

Whilst we don’t know much about his private life we do know this – he felt women were the only sex that could be trusted, that men lacked some of the inherently necessary strengths women possesed, and that he lived in Polyamarous relationships for much of his life. He was also one of the men behind the Polygraph machine.

Here’s a little gallery of wonder woman images:

article originally appeared in Pop My Cherry January 2010.

MaXXX Black & Midori @ UberLearn

Tuesday, November 18th, 2008

Want some techniques to help you sizzle in the bedroom? How about new tricks to keep them coming back again and again?

Well, Midori, the queen of all that is BDSM instruction is on her way to Sydney and she’ll be holding some very special classes at Uber for a limited time. Midori is one of the world’s leading sex educators, with her books and articles published worldwide. We even stock her books here. She’s so good, MaXXX Black will be there to help you with any supplies you might need.

There are 5 workshops being held in Sydney. To find out more about how to book a place check out Uber services here.

Midori Book     Midori @ MaXXX Black     Midori Japanese Bondage Book

Costumes and Control

Thursday, April 17th, 2008

As you can see from the fabulous online store, here at MaXXX Black we have a huge selection of gorgeous products, designed to enhance any loving that you may be getting (or giving), so that everyone has the amazing orgasms they deserve. But, what you may not know, is that we also stock so much more in-store, including a saucy selection of outfits for you to dress up in while you’re playing with your favourite toys. And, because we’re a thoughtful bunch, you can even beautifully accessorise your new costume with one of the new diamante chokers, leg-lengthening platform stilettos, or just match your new look to your favourite sex toy.

Seriously though, remember the last time you went to a fancy dress party – how much fun was that?! Or for those of you out there who already play dress-ups when your getting down and dirty, I know you’ll be having a wee smirk to yourself already. And, the added fun factor with dressing up is that it is almost impossible not to get into a little role play, however tongue in cheek. For example, the hottest police officer in town will always catch her man with our glamorous diamante handcuffs, and if he’s been really naughty, a thorough frisk and a shake down will have him sorted in no time. If he’s been really naughty, some super tight bondage and an interrogation should put an end to his wicked ways (if you want). For bondage hints and tips you simply must check out ‘Bondage for Sex’ by Chanta Rose or ‘SM101‘ to make sure he obeys.

Queen of Hearts Costume PVC Nurse Costume Leg Avenue Sexy Cop Love Bug Costume

A couple of my favorite designs are the Lovebug Tutu with wings, and the mad Queen of Hearts. These will make you feel like belle of the ball and can be glammed up with one of our beautiful new diamante chokers and heels, or worn punky with a leather collar and fishnets. And of course, no dress up box would be complete without the ubiquitous naughty nurses’ uniform and we have a great selection, from pink little dresses to nasty black PVC-if nurses really looked this hot we’d all develop temperatures (groan!) So for the perfect examination we have some great tools to help with your diagnosis of the victim, ahem, patient. Snap, snap! Oooh, rubber gloves and lube for those personal examinations. We highly recommend using Pjur Aqua or Pjur Bodyglide for those hard to reach places and making sure everything is in working order. And, if you know what’s good for you the soothing, therapeutic Yes organic lubricant will have your patient healed in no time at all. Incidentally, you’ll find a great range of medical toys and equipment in-store.

We have a range of lingerie, stockings, and heels to tantalise yourself and/or your lover. We have many customers who have partaken in pole dancing classes and want to demonstrate their new found skills in the bedroom. Sequin bikinis, feather boas, opera-length gloves, and a rinding crop will have your partner panting for that private dance. Or maybe you could release your inner dominatrix – cuff or tie him down so he can’t touch you or himself and tease him till he goes wild with passion! In-store you’ll find a fine selection of crops, whips, floggers and bondage accessories to complete your kit.

So, what are you waiting for? Don’t be shy, come in armed with you (or your partners’) favourite fantasy and we’ll help you find everything you need to make it a reality.