The Gathering returns to Sydney this October with over 40 brilliant kinky workshops amongst a host of some very glamorous fetish events. With so much to choose from we thought we’d help by talking about the 6 workshops we’re recommending to customers and friends of MB. These are all suitable for beginner to intermediate players and run by some the community’s most respected and talented teachers.
There is much more to a great bondage scene than good-looking (or technical) rope work. Energy and connection begins the rope scene before the first rope is even laid against skin, and continues throughout the entire rope embrace. Learn how to transmit your energy, enforce your energy, express your dominance, and get the best from your rope partner.
Engage in a journey that includes this dynamic team sharing their thoughts and experience in the sensuality of rope and concludes with a guided meditation with a twist that defines the mindfulness needed to find your own pathway to connect with rope and partner.
Join Mark, Lani and Aleni as they delve into the erotic connection between top and bottom and learn to use your energy to leave your bottom always wanting more.
Mistress Electra Amore, an accomplished caning mistress who has toured the world showcasing her skills, is joining The Gathering for the first time.
“It took me years to actually pick up a cane and use one. It scared the hell out of me – they used to use it during my school years. But when I started, it morphed in my hand as if it was an old friend and each of my, even, accurate and precise strokes were all measured and delivered with a natural force”.
During this workshop you’ll explore the cane – including the different styles, thickness’, and the ideal length for you. You’ll also learn some of the fundamental things such as cleaning, storing and maintaining them. But the most important thing you will learn is how to deliver a meaningful and accurate disciplinary stroke – with love and skill.
Zoe Montana certainly knows a bit about spanking. She is a professional spanking mistress who has starred in much classic British spanking porn: ‘Tammy’s Shame’, ‘Punishment by Proxy’ and ‘Whipping Boy’ are just a few.
Her Spanking class was one of the top 5 classes of the 2012 Gathering in terms of popularity.
Zoe returns in 2014 to show how you can use spanking as a great addition to a scene – or a scene all of its own…
“I’ve dreamt of this. Waited so long for it to finally come true, and now….” If you are just starting out, stepping off the ledge of fantasy into the free-fall of actually playing, this class is for you.
Exploring the elements that will make your first “kink scene” a success, you’ll discover ways to make it more intimate, less intimidating, and absolutely achievable.
Be privy to the mind of a dominant who has created many successful first scenes for budding sub missives over the years, and learn what it takes to turn your fantasies into your reality.
Do you have an undesirable urge to be in charge? Does the thought of taking the lead excite you? Do you have a need to exert your Dominance?
Maybe you’re not sure where to start or how to go about it, or have you taken that step and found yourself in a bit of trouble, like many others when they first start to explore their Dominant nature – regardless of their age. Well, here is your chance to step into your Dominant side.
A professional Dominatrix, Electra will be sharing her personal journey and experiences, giving tips, advice and demonstrations and empowering you to take control – where it really matters.
An introduction to that part of BDSM most people first think of – the art of Corporal Punishment. It looks mean, but it doesn’t all have to really hurt.This class covers a wide range of techniques – from how to give a sensual flogging through to heavy discipline pain play.
Aleni, one of Sydney’s finest Dominants, talks about safety issues, topping (do-ing) techniques, how this play works for those on the receiving end and will provide you with hands on instruction. This class gives you lots of information and fun for both Do-ees and Do-ers.
So there you have it – 6 sensual, stimulating workshops we just can’t recommend strongly enough. For more info on The Gathering and the available workshops visit their website thegathering.com.au.
Max Black and Claude have joined forces to bring free kinky play packs directly to women who play with other women. Is that you? Next time you visit Max Black you can pick one up!
Max Black is stocked with play packs which have lube, condoms, gloves, cleaning product for toys and surfaces and of course no kit would be complete without some info about safe sex, looking after yourself, your partners and your toys. Blood play packs are also available with the same contents as the above kit and also a sharps disposal bin, alcohol swabs, needle tips, cotton wool balls and of course we’d never distribute this kind of stuff without some information about how to keep yourself safe and free from blood borne viruses.
If you can’t make it in to Max Black but you’re a woman from NSW you can order your free play pack on the Claude website (www.iloveclaude.com). While you’re there check out the badass site which celebrates women into kink, defiance, art and sex.
Claude is pumped full of all the good stuff – music, bravery, health info, free stuff, videos, interviews and everything that sits on the edge. One more thrust and Claude would burst!
“My heart was saying “I want to create something that doesn’t exist, that needs to exist, that people will enjoy.” ”
For those of you who have not already discovered TENGA, it is a premium Japanese male-oriented adult brand currently on the market. TENGA produces some of these most discreet and beautifully designed male masturbation cups and sleeves distributed now to over 40 countries.
Matsumoto, the creator of TENGA products, originally graduated from a mechanics college and started his career tuning luxury and vintage cars and later worked as a car salesman. However, he could not negate the desire to create and spent his time outside of work trolling various types of stores from DIY, car accessories to electronics stores researching products and one day stumbled into an adult store.
“I hadn’t been into one of these stores in years! I had always found sex toys to be funny so I thought I’d take a closer look. As I walked into the sex toy area though, I felt somewhat uncomfortable; “There’s something wrong here…” “
Matsumoto felt that what was so strong about products with the Made in Japan label was that there was a feeling of ‘safety’ in the quality of manufacturing, customer care and customer service following a purchase. However, he felt that this feeling of safety did not translate to adult products where often at the time the products had no company name, brand or even contact details and were usually very obscene. Something normal like masturbation only seemed to be catered to one very specific group and not to everyday person.
“I believe pleasure products were originally made to relieve human needs; people need to eat, sleep and relieve sexual urges.”
So, Matsumoto went forth starting from the bottom up to put all his efforts into creating various proto-types. Matsumoto recalls his humble beginnings when he would assimilate objects like a shampoo bottles for the SOFT TUBE cup prototype or toy hammers for what became the ROLLING HEAD cup prototype, or most of his materials would be purchased at the 100 Yen shops. He worked tirelessly throughout the day, until the morning hours for about 1 year and half developing his product and trying to get it out in the market when he finally reached the point where his funds were running low and he was not working any other job.
Then one day he received a call from the Soft on Demand Company to pitch his products and was found. One year of product development and he had his first line of the TENGA standard Red Cup series ready for market. The original 50,000 pieces to be produced were already on reservation and he could not seem to keep up with the high demands from the second lot of production onwards. TENGA exploded and they even had an interview with “Forbes” and were published in many domestic and international magazines. This was the beginning of TENGA.
Matsumoto later went on to develop different versions such as a hard or soft cup which was inspired from the ‘“Hard”, “Medium” and “Soft” bristles varieties of toothbrushes or how beer has “Bitter” and “Light” varieties.
Matsumoto truly believed and strived towards creating an adult-toy that was well designed, well manufactured and that anyone could use. He strongly believed in creating a product that would make people happy.
“Everyone in this world regardless of background should be able to enjoy it and be happy.”
And we are thankful Matsumoto did, because TENGA is one of the hottest and classiest male adult brands on the market today!
Max Black is definitely a big fan of not only TENGA but now also Tenga Iroha their female brand!
Sourced at : http://www.tenga-global.com/interview/index.php
As a counsellor specialising in sexual and relationship issues one would think that I hear all sorts of outrageous stories about my clients’ sexual experiences. And I do. Some would think it’s the dream job; talking about sex all day- what more could I want? And, well, yes it’s true, it is my dream job and I love it. But aside from all of this I also hear endless stories about individuals and couples that are looking for more in aspects of their lives that don’t seem to have anything to do with sex. They don’t just come to sessions wanting to heat things up in the bedroom but they often talk about issues that go much deeper.
Believe it or not a lot of the work I do involves the exploration of issues that go right to the core of my clients’ sense of existence on this earth. Deep huh? Yep. And they occur on multiple levels. The first level is clients’ dreams for their romantic relationships such as wanting a richer and deeper sexual connection with their partner, improving intimacy and exploring with their partner. The second level involves deeply personal issues such as the development of self-esteem, self-exploration (in whatever form that may take!), greater consciousness, spirituality, assertiveness skills, the search for happiness and even finding inner peace. And the third level deals with life skills and challenges such as reaching financial security, finding the dream job, achieving a balanced lifestyle, good health, pursuing studies, hobbies, travel and friendships. It’s a lot to deal with and I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all struggled with some, if not all of these issues in our lives.
What I’ve found is that for many of my clients (and myself included!) to feel truly empowered, inspired and creative in their sex lives they often need to work on many of the aspects just described. I’ll give you an example. John presents for counselling with erectile dysfunction. His wife complains that they don’t have sex any more and even when they try he struggles with his erections. Hmmm…seems a simple case of Erectile Dysfunction. But when I dig a little deeper, John reveals that he has been working 60-hour weeks in the same job for 15 years. When asked why he keeps doing it he answers “because, well, what else is there to do?” 6 months ago he was diagnosed with depression and his doctor warned him that if he didn’t change his eating and exercise habits he would become a candidate for diabetes and cardiovascular disease. After some time working with John and his wife, he was able to feel strong enough to change his work schedule, invest in his health, make more time for his family and have a healthier, more fulfilling and connected sexual and relationship with his wife. It took some time and lots of dedication, but John is a happier man for it now.
We all have room to grow, evolve and become more empowered, inspired and creative. For more information on how check out my new workship ‘Lovin your Loving’.
German brand Fun Factory has definitely raised the bar in the toy industry with this entirely innovative never-before-seen motor technology of their Stronic series! To put it mildly, I certainly did not say nein to reviewing the Stronic Eins.
Warning-this is NOT your traditional style of vibrator. But, if you are looking to try something entirely different I definitely suggest having a play with the Pulsator!
Instead of offering traditional vibrations, the Stronic Eins delivers a fun thrusting, back and forth movement for a more realistic experience. To get technical, the motor contains solid metal which moves in a hollow body to produce deep frequency pulsating thrusts. It is a completely unique experience.
Because of the thrusting movement the toy does need to be held in place, however only lightly as you should let the toy take you on it’s personal joy-ride! As with most Fun Factory products, this toy is made from a beautiful thick and soft silicone which always feel luscious on the body. Plus it has all the perks of a deluxe toy being beautifully designed, rechargeable, water-proof, lockable and has many easy-to use stimulation modes- just scroll through using the + and – button.
With 10 different stimulation modes, the toy has a lot of different styles of fun thrusts to offer! Personally, I think that the fifth mode is the most interesting as it starts with a purring rev-up and then delivers a slow rocking thrust!
Plus I love that they have an Emergency OFF! (or as I prefer to call it the Emergency ON!)button- the ‘FUN’ button.
In terms of pleasure, the G-spot is stimulated in a different way to other vibrators as the back and forth movement against the G-spot increases your arousal and continues to build.
I always believe different toys cater to different moods, the Stronic Eins definitely serves its purpose when you’re wanting a bit more action or something a bit more dynamic out of a toy.
The main reason why this toy does not receive a 10/10 rating from me is because the slightly raised mound on the toy designed for clitoral stimulation does not really offer much in that department. I would suggest to use this toy in conjunction with another clitoral toy or if Fun Factory could add a vibrating tickler to this toy in the next generation, it would be THE toy that stole the show!
However, for a purely internal toy it is a truly fun and one-of-a-kind experience and is one that I think every girl should try once(if not more)!
I would also suggest that this toy should be used by intermediate or advanced vibrator users as it is quite different from your standard toy. For first time or beginner players, I would recommend starting with a traditional vibrator and then adding this to your collection later.
STRONIC ZWEI STRONIC DREI
As for the boys you haven’t been forgotten! The Stronic Zwei is the latest addition from Fun Factory’s Stronic series to be released-so imagine this same concept but back-door friendly.
And COMING SOON. . . is the Stronic Drei ,which is designed for those who like that extra ribbed feel whether for back-door or vaginal penetration.
Step to the side oh mighty vibrator, there’s a new toy in town. Introducing, The Pulsator.
A Max Black Sexual Stylist session is all about creating a more confident, vibrant and happy you. Our sex lives are so important to our everyday well being, and at various stages in our lives, this part of our life can become neglected. Before you know it you may not have the confidence you once did – or perhaps you want to discover the pleasure you always heard about….
You turn to Rachel Zoe for fashion inspiration, Donna Hay for cuisine; Napoleon for makeup styling and Donatella for home décor… but what of your sex life? Welcome to Max Black, where Australia’s first and only Sexual Stylist, Heidi Zuegn is changing the sex lives of Australian women.
She’s an expert at helping you add that special something to your sex life, and together with the team at Max Black, we’ll help you to have renewed confidence, understanding and inspiration in the bedroom. Our team has been helping women have more fulfilling and nurturing sex lives for the over 7 years, so we know how to make a difference!
It all starts by making a time for a complimentary consultation with Heidi herself. Your time with her starts in Max Black’s Velvet Lounge, a private, comfortable and soft space that was purpose built for the many workshops and special events that happen at MB through the year. Heidi will ask you what your personal goals are for your sensual life, including what you want to explore, what has interested you before and what you might want to achieve if you’re a couple, so that she can determine what will work for you.
Heidi can then advise you on everything from basic anatomy and function (sex education 101 – sometimes so important) to which toys and romance items will help you to get toward your sex life aims. You might find yourself talking to her about enhancing self-confidence, or how diet ad exercise can affect your sex life, or even ways to create the time and space to enjoy sex with your partner.
Heidi also loves latex and burlesque fashion, and Max Black has two beautiful rooms devoted just to that. If you want to explore dressing up she takes great delight in helping you to create a look that makes you feel and look fantastic.
Together with advice on putting together a great toybox with products that will best suit you, techniques and tips for their use, and even book recommendations, having a sexual stylist session can result in a fantastic sexual makeover! And if you need referrals to workshops, a sex therapist or other health professional, Max Black can help there too.
If you’re interested in having a complimentary sexual styling consultation with Heidi Zuegn, or organising an interview, please get in touch with us by calling 02 9557 0122 or emailing us at firstname.lastname@example.org
For some guys finding the right size condom can be a pain (literally). While us everyday joes have lots of choices, bigger men have a hard time finding a big size condom. That’s why we’ve worked with GLYDE to bring you a 60mm extra large condom – and it’s vegan too!
Glyde is 100% Australian owned and operated, and they’ve been listening to the needs of Australian men and women for over 20 years.
Their Ultra Latex condoms are manufactured using the highest quality natural latex, with an exclusive ‘double dipping’ process that makes them super strong without making them any thicker – so they feel great and are even more reliable. In fact hey are only 65 microns thick – that’s about half as thick as a human hair!!
New GLYDE MAXI has been with us for a couple of months now so we’ve had little time to get some great feedback from our male customers who have been asking for something bigger than the standard 54mm. And while there are still some very big men out there who won’t be a fan (you’ll need more specialist help) for the majority of the large-endowed guys MAXI is going to feel a heck of a lot more comfortable.
Glyde Maxi comes in an Ultra Pack of 10 condoms, and is not only wider (60mm with a =/- of 2mm) it’s also a little longer, so it takes into account your proportions. It has a natural latex colour so it’s not too noticable and is still lubricated inside for that extra bit of comfort and pleasure.
And if that wasn’t enough to convince you then get this… it’s vegan and vegetarian approved too! Glyde don’t use Casein (an animal product) in the manufacturing process, using a vegetable extract instead. So they’re safe, they’re sexy and they are 100% cruelty free to boot.
If you’d like to try Glyde Maxi, CLICK HERE to visit the product page on our website.
In our opinion it’s never too late for some good sex education – and it’s even better when it’s not just about sex, but about the love and desire we all feel too – after all, it all goes together to make for a fabulous life! So we’re super-psyched to be bringing Christina Spaccavento out this week for the first of our Summer Workshops – Love & Desire: Stronger Relationships, Better Sex.
This workshop is designed for EVERYBODY – whether your in a relationship or single, whether your into boys, girls, or both – the human body is something we can all talk about. Tickets are selling fast, and we have a maximum of 50 places for this workshop. You can get you tix online or in-store.
So What’s It ALL About?…….
Ever wanted to know why libido changes?
Or how to understand your lover’s needs better?
Do you want to know more about love & desire?
This informative and practical workshop led by Christina Spaccavento – Sex Therapist and Relationship Counsellor – will explain the basics of sexual desire in relationships and provide easy and accessible techniques that lovers can use to keep the fire burning within their relationships and themselves!
Plus, a Q&A where you’re encouraged to ask Christina anything!
When: Tuesday 28th August 2012
Time: 7PM – Please aim to arrive 15 minutes prior to the start.
Where: MaXXX Black – Level 1, 264 King Street, Newtown
Tickets: $20 (including booking fee)
Tickets are available: at the counter in-store, or you can phone us for mail orders OR
Christina is a qualified Sex Therapist and Relationship Counsellor. Her understanding, warmth, humour and experience has made her popular with singles and couples alike from across the social spectrum.
Christina has made contributions to media including National Geographic, Marie Claire & Body+Soul. She works with couples & individuals on a broad range of sexual issues, and holds a Masters of Sexual Health from the University of Sydney, is the Acting CEO of Impotence Australia and is a Board Member of ASSERT NSW.
The risks to female fertility are all fairly well known, but what about our men folk? How much do we really know about the effects of our busy urban lives on the respective family jewels? Believe it or not, the modern man is just as vulnerable to fertility problems as his female counterpart!
There are a number of factors that can affect sperm health including lifestyle factors, environmental factors and even our choice in clothing. So what can men do to improve the potency of their punch?
If you’re a smoker, quit! Studies have shown that the concentration, motility, and morphology of sperm is affected by the toxic mixture of chemicals in cigarettes like nicotine, carbon monoxide, cadmium, and other mutagenic compounds .
Paternal smoking has also been associated with an increase in DNA damage to spermatozoa as well as higher incidences of birth defects and childhood cancer. And, if this isn’t enough, smoking is also widely recognised as a major cause of erectile dysfunction in men. Yes boys, the more you smoke, the higher your risk of impotence.
Eating a healthy diet rich in zinc and omega 3’s and regular exercise are also winners for the little fellas. Moderating alcohol intake will also alleviate ‘the brewer’s droop’, something most men will experience after a few too many.
Then there’s that invisible monster that is increasingly plaguing our lives; stress. If you’re working long hours there’s a good chance that your mates downstairs may be starting to feel a little out of their depth. Increased stress levels place heavier nutritional demands on the body to cope and sperm are way down the nutritional priority list when stress levels are high.
Environmental factors can also be major contributors to your sperm’s health. Industrial chemicals such as pesticides and synthetic oestrogenic substances that have crept into food can have negative effects on reproductive health. Going organic might not be a bad idea, but if you still buy from the supermarket, it’s essential that you wash your fruit and veggies well before eating them.
Statistics show that looser fitting underwear assists in maintaining optimum scrotal temperature, whilst reducing risks of overheating that can lead to sperm damage. If you’re looking to increase your fertility then it could help going back to the traditional boxer. And those tight jocks that look so good may be doing a little too much smuggling, so make sure you have some down-time in your more relaxed long johns.
But all jokes aside, fertility issues can become at times quite distressing when you’re trying to have children. Many men even start to feel like what should be an unlimited love fest becomes a job. If you find yourself in this sort of situation, getting some help from a Sex Therapist can give you and your partner some valuable support.
Christina is one of the very talented sex therapy professionals that MaXXX Black recommends. For information about sex therapy and counselling we encourage everyone to read our Community Links page.
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Can you use your pelvic floor to draw up energy and recharge yourself? Can you have sustained orgasms? Men, can you use your muscles to help you last longer? If not, can I suggest you strengthen your pelvic floor muscles?!…
What are The Pelvic Floor Muscles?
The pelvic floor is a band of muscle that goes from the pubic bone at the front to the tailbone at the back and to the bones of the upper thighs on either side. It’s a girdle of muscle that holds all the pelvic organs in place, with just a few holes for the various tubes to come through.
Benefits of Toned Muscles
Like any muscle, if it’s toned it’s stronger and more effective than if it’s untoned.
Since having toned pelvic floor muscles means:
heightened awareness of and connection to your pelvic region and genitals
better sexual response in terms of awareness of sensations
more pleasure for your partner (she can massage him, he can last longer)
better orgasms with greater sensation and longer length
continued good sex as you get older
her vagina won’t fall out when you’re old (yes, vaginal prolapse can happen!)
– there’s a lot to be said for toning those muscles!
How to Tone The Muscles
Locate the muscles by squeezing as though you are trying to stop urine flowing. Aim to isolate just that muscle area, so that your abdomen and buttocks stay relaxed. Keep your breathing calm and flowing.
1) Squeeze and relax rhythmically: in for half a second, relax for half a second. Do this for as long as you can, at least half a minute, but you can do it for ever if you like!
2) Squeeze, hold and relax: Squeeze the muscles, then hold them for as long as you can. A few seconds initially, then increasing up to a 20 seconds or more. Make sure your abdomen and buttock muscles are relaxed as you do this. Keep breathing evenly.
3) Squeeze in stages: Squeeze your muscles, then squeeze a little tighter, then a little more, and a little more…then just touch a more…And release!
It’s important that you don’t only focus on the squeezing in. You also need to relax out. So finish with some gentle squeezes in and pushes out, just like a wave lapping on the shore, do about 20 or so.
So practice those exercises every day whenever you think of it. Then when you’ve got the hang of it, read my next post for more advanced training and the awesome things you can do when you’ve got those muscles good and toned!