Archive for February, 2012

NEW PRODUCTS: Quiver Books Now At MaXXX Black

Friday, February 17th, 2012

You might not of heard of Quiver Books before, but they publish some of the latest (and greatest) books about sex, sexuality and relationships. And their books are now available at MaXXX Black.

We’ve always loved a good read, especially when it’s about sex, and our book department has always been very popular. But with a recent renovation giving us LOTS more room to play we decided to make the selection even better by bringing in dozens of new titles over Summer.

There’s far too many to get into in one blog article, but since the first few Quiver titles became available on our web-store this morning, I thought I would mention a few:

Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation


The Secret of Great G-Spot Orgasms

Leading sex educator Tristan Taormino presents the best positions, couple-play techniques, and solo exercises for maximizing G-spot stimulation, achieving female ejaculation, and having intense, full-body orgasms. We love Tristan’s work, and we’ve been stocking her books for years. This is easily one of her best works to date.

Look out for announcements of Tristan’s Australian Tour in April (she might even pop up here at MB).

Mastering Multiple=Mastering Multiple Position Sex

Eric Garrison (sexologist) takes the traditional sex manual a step further by outlining entire bedroom scenarios, from seduction to sexplay to positions, including the transitions in between.

If finding new ways to play is important to you, or you just want to feel more confident (and sexy) then Eric’s books is perfect.

It’s not a technical manual, and the images are modern, eye-catching and even helpful.

Time Poor? Chances are you’re just like millions of Australians – too busy and in demand to be able to schedule many of those long bouts of lovemaking that used to be so much fun. The Art of the Quickie is a book that will coach readers how to have quick, but rewarding sex.

Fast sex can be thrilling for men and women, and Dr. Joel Black’s latest book helps to break down some of the anxieties associated with fast sex as well as applying techinques to make your quickies fulfilling for both of you.

These are just three of the new books that are in-store and online right now.  We’ll be reviewing some of our favourites right here on the blog over the coming weeks.

Happy Reading!

JeJoue Vibes – Back in Australia, and back at MaXXX Black

Thursday, February 16th, 2012

A few years back we had just one JeJoue vibe on our shelves.

Then they went away.  Away to France and Europe and over to the USA (all that research!) – and now they are back in Australia with an all-new range of delicious adult toys – and of course they are now available at MaXXX Black.

After some serious redevelopment of the motors, battery (the whole range is rechargeable) and even some subtle design changes – the new look JeJoue are fantastic fun that will give the big toy producers LELO and Fun Factory a real run for their money.

JeJoue are passionate about discovering and creating desire, and have been inspired by individuals and partners wanting to discover sensual experiences.  That’s why they design and develop toys that will help to give you the confidence to create luxurious and enticing experiences that are all about you (and your partner too).

We have four new toys in-store this week, with a new model for guys coming in very soon. But right now you can get:

Je Joue Fifi Rabbit Vibrator


A New kind of Rabbit.
Perfectly contoured with unique vibrations from the 3 motors (one in each ‘ear’ plus the shaft) FiFi gives you simultaneous G-spot and clitoral stimulation … when and how you want it.

Je Joue Ami Kegal/PC Exercisers

Ami Kegal PC Exercisers

The collection of weighted Ami balls are a progressive, three step ‘tease as you tone’ exercise set.
Je Joue Ami Kegel Balls incorporate the best of medical and pleasure product knowledge to create Kegel balls which allow the user to find their perfect start point and progress their PC strength in a pleasurable way.

Je Joue MiMi Rechargeable Clitorial Toy


The perfect discreet or first-time vibe.

Small, beautifully designed and discrete, Je Joue MiMi Massager has been designed to complement and both enhance couple and solo play.

Je Joue Uma Rechargeable G-Spot Toy


Contoured to fit your body’s natural curves, the powerful Je Joue Uma Vibrator is the perfect first toy for internal, external or G-spot pleasure whether together with your partner or performing solo.

See the whole line on our webstore by clicking HERE – or come into our Newtown outlet to see them in person.

Eat Your Way To Better Sex – Part 2

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

No doubt that today, being Valentine’s Day, will see millions of couples step out for a luxurious, or intimate, or purely romantic dinner. So it’s the perfect day to present Part 2 of our super sex foods. (You can read part one here)

Here’s 6 more yummy foods that will boost your sex life…

7. Eat More Fruit

Did you know that men who consume at least 200 milligrams of vitamin C a day improve their sperm counts and motility? In fact Vitamin C has even been shown to be effective in reversing infertility in some men (University of Texas) in as little as 14 days.

And while you’re in the grocer don’t forget the Watermelon. It’s filled with high concentrations of the good-for-your-heart, good-for-sex phytonutrients lycopene, beta carotene, and, the big one, citrulline. Citrulline is particularly exciting for its ability to relax blood vessels, according to studies at Texas A&M University. When you eat watermelon, the citrulline is converted to the helpful amino acid arginine. Arginine boosts nitric oxide, which relaxes blood vessels, the same basic effect that Viagra has, to treat erectile dysfunction and maybe even prevent it.

8. Red Meat & Red Wine

Alot of people are going to like this one. Italian researchers recently found that the antioxidants and alcohol in the wine may trigger the production of nitric oxide in the blood, which helps artery walls to relax, increasing blood flow to the genitals. Just limit yourselves to a glass or two. More alcohol than that can put a damper on sexual performance and lead to bed spins of a not-very-sexy nature. Worth noting: even teetotalers can benefit from the red grape. Dark grape juice contains antioxidant polyphenols that protect the cardiovascular system and help keep skin flexible and elastic.

Which brings us to red meat. Lean cuts are great sources of zinc, a mineral that curbs production of a hormone called prolactin, which at high levels can cause sexual dysfunction, according to Berman. Zinc is also a key muscle-building nutrient, and the high concentrations of conjugated linoleic acids (CLA) in beef, studies show, may spur weight loss. Choose filet mignon or other deep red cuts with round or loin in the name, because they are the leanest.

9. Beans (a.k.a. Protein)

Protein is so important to weight maintenance that you should eat it with every meal and snack. Proteins boost metabolism a little more during digestion than any other type of food. Plus protein increases metabolism by helping to build muscle and stall the muscle loss that naturally happens as we age. Muscle is more metabolically active than fat is, so the more lean muscle on your body the better at burning calories it will be. Plus, well-toned abs and thighs are nice to look at when unadorned by clothing. So, how do you eat more protein without going overboard on eggs and meat? Beans—they’re good for the heart and your glutes. Kidneys, garbanzos, black beans, and navy beans are full of muscle-building protein.

While they may not be the best choice for a side dish if you plan on sex for dessert, building your meal plan around a foundation of beans and legumes will ultimately pay off for you sexually. Many studies show that bean eaters are leaner and healthier than people who don’t eat beans. According to one study in the Journal of the American College of Nutrition, people who eat 3/4 cup beans or legumes a day have lower blood pressure and smaller waists than people who get their protein from meat. Beans are also full of cholesterol-lowering soluble fiber. A quarter cup of red kidney beans delivers 3 grams of fiber, plus more than 6,000 disease-fighting antioxidants. Navy beans are particularly rich in potassium, which regulates blood pressure and heart contractions, something you’ll need as your heart starts racing when he does that special move that makes you melt.

10. Fresh Fish

Well, to be more specific – fatty fish. If what’s good for your heart is good for your love life, then fish like salmon, mackerel, sardines and tuna should feature regularly in your meals.

The omega-3 fatty acids DHA and EPA found in fish help to raise dopamine levels in the brain that trigger arousal, according to sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD. Other health benefits: anti-inflammatory properties that fight blood clots and heart arrhythmias, better brain function, and protection against dementia. Studies show that omega-3s can also reduce symptoms of depression. Research from the University of Pittsburgh showed that people with high omega-3 blood levels were happier and more agreeable. Tell us that can’t help you get more sex!

Fish is one of the many healthy foods that contain the amino acid L-arginine, which stimulates the release of growth hormone among other substances and is converted into nitric oxide in the body. It’s worth repeating: nitric oxide is critical for erections and it can help women’s sexual function as well by causing blood vessels to open wider for improved blood flow.

11. Oats & Grains

Did you know a bowl of Uncle Tobys’ finest is one of the few ways to boost testosterone in the bloodstream?

The male hormone plays a significant role in sex drive and orgasm strength in both men and women. Oats (as well as seeds, ginseng, nuts, dairy, and green vegetables) contain L-arginine, an amino acid that enhances the effect nitric oxide has on reducing blood vessel stiffness. L-arginine has been used to treat erectile dysfunction. Like Viagra, it helps relax muscles around blood vessels in the penis. When they dilate, blood flow increases so a man can maintain an erection.

Oatmeal and other whole grains like whole-grain bread, brown rice, and barley also qualify as good-for-the-heart, better-for-the-gut foods. They are slow-burning, complex carbohydrates that won’t drive your blood sugar through the roof. They keep you feeling fuller longer and provide excellent energy. Try a bowl of steel-cut oatmeal with fresh berries and bananas with a drizzle of honey before your next marathon sex session.

12. Oysters & Shellfish

Oysters have long held their reputation as an aphrodisiac (though that is historically attributed to their shape and visual appeal), however raw oysters do have a strong connection to sexual function.

Oysters hold more zinc than most any other food, and it is believed that this mineral may enhance libido by helping with testosterone production–higher levels of the hormone are linked to an increase in desire. Zinc is also crucial to healthy sperm production and blood circulation. While Casanova reportedly ate 50 raw oysters a day, about six will provide double the recommended daily allowance of 15 mg of zinc.

To spice things up a bit, try a few dashes of hot sauce on your raw oysters. Other good sources of zinc are shrimp, red meat, pumpkin seeds, poultry and pork, eggs, and dairy products.


No matter what you’re serving, make it healthy, yummy and sensual – and remember, food  does more than set the mood, it’s also vital to the way we want to play.

xox MaXXXie

Jacqueline Hellyer : What is Sex Therapy, Sex Coaching & Tantra Teaching?

Saturday, February 11th, 2012

I’m often asked what’s the difference between sex therapy and coaching, and where Tantra fits in. So here goes…

In a nutshell, Sex Therapy fixes sexual dysfunctions to make people sexually functional. Sex (and Relationship) Coaching, takes functional people and makes them exceptional. As I do both, I can help you fix the problems, and then take you beyond – far beyond – into the realm of exceptional! That’s where the Tantra comes in.

What is Sex Therapy?
Sex Therapy is a modality of sexual healing to help people with sexual dysfunctions become sexually functional. This involves addressing the psychological barriers to sexual health and well-being as well as providing sexual education and correction of limiting or false beliefs around sex and sexuality. Once healing has occurred, Sex Coaching can then take the individual or client to greater sexual awareness and fulfillment.

What is Sex Coaching?
Sex Coaching is pathway for sexual growth. Sex Coaching is a client-focused approach that works with sexually functional individuals and couples to enable them to deepen and expand their experience of sex, love and intimacy. Depending on the needs of the client, it may include ancient and esoteric teachings (see Tantra Teaching), sex education and instruction. The Coach helps the client to discover and enhance their own eroticism to create a love life that is one of ongoing growth and fulfillment.

What is Relationship Coaching?
Relationship coaching is a professional client-focused service where an essentially functional individual or couple is guided to create their desired relationship with effective support and information. The Coach enables the client(s) to become clear about their needs, hopes and desires, and to develop understandings and strategies to achieve these in a mutually supportive way. While past hurts and history may be addressed, the focus is more on moving forward, with the aim of enabling ongoing personal and relationship growth.

What is Tantra Teaching?
Tantra is a spiritual and energetic approach to sex and life that comes from ancient India. Along with the Taoists of China and Qidosha from North America, these approaches to sex, love and intimacy are much broader and deeper than conventional western understandings. Through practices that include breathing, mindfulness, moving energy and sensual touch, you will learn to connect with your partner is a way that is real, deep, erotic, poetic and intensely beautiful. Tantra sessions do not involve nudity or intimate touch – that’s the homework!

Book in for private sessions or attend Tantra Fusion Workshops to take your relationship and sex life to functional and beyond!

Eat Your Way To Better Sex – Part 1

Thursday, February 9th, 2012

Sexologists, cardiologists, and psychologists agree: how much you consume has a huge impact on your sexual health. Exactly what you eat is  important, too. The right foods can help us transform the way we feel, and the way we feel is central to how healthy our libido is.

So here are the 12 foods you should be getting more of if you want to get more of  ‘it’. Part 2 next week.

1. Berries, Berries & More Berries

Researchers at the University of Rochester conducted experiments on undergraduate students to see if there was any real connection between the color and sex. In one, male and female students viewed images of women on red or white backgrounds. The men found a woman’s image on red more attractive than on white, while the female students did not. In another test, men were asked to rate attractiveness of pictures of women on red, white, gray, green, or blue backgrounds. As expected, the men scored the women on red as more sexually attractive. They also said they would spend more money on the women in red than on those in the other colors.

Strawberries can be considered sexy for another reason besides their sensual color: they are high in the B vitamin folate that helps prevent birth defects, and vitamin C, a potential libido booster. Strawberries dipped in melted dark chocolate anyone? Or how about the classic strawberries and whipped cream? Blueberries (and blackberries) are just as sexy. Ideal for a great morning-after breakfast in bed, so you have energy for round 2, both berries contain compounds that are thought to relax blood vessels and improve circulation for a natural Viagra-like effect.

2. Spinach & Leafy Greens

Spinach is a potent source of magnesium, which helps dilate blood vessels, according to Japanese researchers. Better blood flow to the genitals, as you’ve learned, creates greater arousal for men and women. Spinach and other green vegetables like broccoli, Brussels sprouts, kale, cabbage, Swiss chard, and bok choy are also good sources of our favorite sex nutrient—folate.

Extra insurance for good reproductive health, folate may lower blood levels of a harmful substance called homocysteine. This abrasive amino acid irritates the lining of arteries and encourages plaque to adhere to it. A high level of homocysteine is a significant risk factor for peripheral arterial disease (PAD). But it appears that dietary folate is protective. In a study of 46,000 men. Harvard University researchers found that those who consumed the most folate daily were 30 percent less likely to develop PAD (Peripheral Arterial Disease) than men who ate the fewest folate-rich foods.

3.  Unsweetened Tea

The antioxidant catechin found in tea promotes blood flow all over the body for sex power and brainpower; it enhances memory, mood, and focus.
One particularly potent catechin, a compound called ECGC prevalent in green tea, is thought to increase fat burn. A study in the Journal of Nutrition found that people who consumed the equivalent of three to five cups of green tea a day for 12 weeks experienced nearly a 5 percent reduction in bodyweight. Drink freshly brewed green or black tea every day-hot or iced. Bottled teas don’t offer the same benefits. And keep the sugar out of it.
Unsweetened tea is an excellent alternative to high-calorie, sugar-laden soft drinks and juices. One 12-ounce can of soda has about 10 teaspoons of sugar in it. The western world is drinking itself into obesity! The high-fructose corn syrup in many soft drinks raises insulin levels, which can over time develop into diabetes. Studies also show that getting too much sugar lowers the body’s ability to produce endorphins. Low endorphins can lead to depression, and know that depression sucks the life out of our sex drive.

4. Seeds & Nuts

Pumpkin and sunflower seeds, almonds, peanuts, walnuts, and other nuts all contain the necessary monounsaturated fats with which your body creates cholesterol—and your sex hormones need that cholesterol to work properly. That’s something the ancient Romans didn’t know when they tossed walnuts at newlyweds for good breeding luck.
Long linked to fertility—the shell, of course, resembles a man’s cojones; the inside meat is vulvalike in form—nuts make a perfectly sexy snack. Packed with muscle-building protein and filling fiber, they are a heart-healthy, albeit calorie-dense, treat.


Over easy, hard-boiled, or scrambled, eggs aren’t the most sensual food on the menu, but it’s hard to beat them for a fit and healthy body inside and out. Eggs are rich in vitamins B6 and B5, which help balance hormone levels and ease stress, and are important for a healthy libido.

Calorie for calorie, eggs deliver more biologically usable protein (if you eat the yolks) than any other food, including beef. Eggs are an excellent part of a weight-loss strategy thanks to their protein and B12, a vitamin that studies have shown is necessary for breaking down fat.

One study in the International Journal of Obesity found that when overweight people ate two eggs or a bagel for breakfast 5 days a week for 8 weeks, those who ate the eggs lost 65 percent more weight (and lost it faster) than the bagel eaters.

6. Dark Chocolate

Devouring something gooey and decadent is incredibly sensual. Dark chocolate, in particular, contains a compound called phenylethylamine that releases the same endorphins triggered by sex, and increases the feelings of attraction between two people, according to research published in the Journal of the American Dietetic Association. In fact, brain scans in a British study showed that eating chocolate causes a more intense and longer brainbuzz than kissing does. In this study researchers monitored the brains and heart rates of couples while they kissed passionately or ate chocolate. The brains of both men and women showed greater stimulation while the chocolate melted on their tongues than when their tongues were tied in a passionate kiss.

What’s the “healthiest” chocolate? The disease-fighting flavonols that make dark chocolate good for the body also cause the bitterness. To balance flavor and health benefits, try dark chocolate with 70 percent cacao, recommends Jeffrey Blumberg, PhD, who directs the Antioxidants Research Laboratory at Tufts University A 2-inch square chunk, at about 100 calories, will deliver a healthy treat without messing with your weight-management efforts.


So there you have it. I’ll tell you about 6 more super foods next week, but until then remember, you can eat your way to better sex!

SPECIAL EVENT – Dude Magazine Launch Party

Thursday, February 9th, 2012

DUDE is a free and not for profit creative magazine designed to celebrate positive representation of trans guys and to share skills and knowledge within our wider community.

Here at MaXXX Black we love it ’cause it’s brave, brash and sexy as well as an intelligent insight to an amazing community. But best of all – it’s LOCAL. Yes, a little aussie start-up that’s already seeing success in a heap of other countries.

And like so many DUDE fans, we can’t wait for the launch of the second issue. The good news is that it’s this weekend, and it’s just around the corner from MaXXX Black.

So if you want to hang with the DUDE crew, make some new friends, chill out on the grass and enjoy the free shows and music this wahat you have to know:

When:  SATURDAY 11TH FEB 2012

Where: NEWTOWN NEIGHBOURHOOD CENTRE (Upstairs) (directly across from the station)

Starts: 3PM

Bring: BYO Picnic Goodies

For more information just visit

Valentine’s Gifts – For Her, For Him & For Couples

Wednesday, February 8th, 2012

V.Day. For some, Valentine’s is the romantic day of the year – full of roses and hope and sexy goodies. For others, V.Day is stress and worry and panic – but not if you come to MaXXX Black. MaXXX Knows Valentine’s – and we are here to help.

So to get everyone started on the right track in 2012 we gathered the MB team and came up with a list of fantastic Valentine’s treats that you just can’t go wrong with…

TASTY : Edible Valentines Gifts

Who hasn’t tried good old body chocolate? or even poured a little honey over their Honey? Tasty yummy things encourage us to feel sensual and connected, and this year you can surprise them with all new offerings:

Bedroom Antics Mudcake Gourmet Body Paint

Bedroom Antics Chocolate Mudcake Body Paint

Forget your everyday body paint, Australian company Bedroom Antics has the ultimate chocolate body sauce – and it tastes like Mudcake!

Amazingly smooth it is made from the best belgian chocolate and comes with brush and several risque serving suggestion cards. Plus, it’s presented in a stunning crystal bottle for total glamour and sex-appeal.

Skin Honey - Vanilla Honey Chai

Booty Parlor Skin HoneyBody Topping

Famous for being in the Oscars gift bags, Booty Parlor is more than just sweet budoir body products. Their Skin Honey takes taste play to an all new height – away from the chocolates and the fruit – and into a world of new flavours and sensual textures. It really does look and feel like warm honey (without getting sticky).

Available in 3 flavours: Vanilla Honey Chai, Chocolate Honey, and Pomegranate

IO Flavoured Lubricant - Chocolate Mint

Intimate Organics Flavoured Personal Lubricant

In a category all its own, these deliciously tempting lubricants are naturally flavored and Aspartame-Free!  With absolutely no after taste and a bottle that has great visual appeal, you will love these dessert and fruit inspired lubricants which are perfect for any bedroom rendezvous!

Plus there are lots of flavours in-store: Wild Strawberries, Pralines & Cream, Toasted Macadamia, Choc Mint, Vanilla Caramel & Citrus Burst.

HERS : Delight The Woman In Your Life

LELO INA - Rabbit Vibrator - Purple

LELO Ina – The Swedish Rabbit

You only have to mention LELO to the ladies and they’re excited. And no wonder. LELO has become the world’s preeminent vibrator maker, and their rabbit vibe, the INA is no exception.

Stylish to the core, INA reaches out seemlessly to her most sensitive zones with two powerful motors for the ultimate indulgence. Crafted from Medical grade silicone and covered by a 10 year quality guarantee, you really can’t wrong with LELO.

LELO Sussura – Silk Lingerie & Loungewear

Delicately detailed and crafted from only the finest silks, LELO Sussurra takes lingerie and loungewear to an elegant, sultry and purely seductive place.

MaXXX Black is the only store in Australia to stock this incredible range of womens and menswear, however it’s the ladies who can be truly spoilt – from floating babydolls to cheeky shorts, structured kimonos and signature robes – spoil her, she deserves it.

See it HERE.

Shiri Zinn Minx

So you’re thinking a new vibrator? Not sure which one will impress? Look no further than MINX, by leading toy designer Shiri Zinn.

This specialty item is sold in stores like Selfridges and  is also owned by Angelina Jolie, Kate Moss, Ivana Trump and many more.It has a rumbling vibration that is near-silent, but best of all it’s silver base is encrusted with Swarovski crystals – and it even features a cheeky pull-away maribou tail!

HIS : Guys Want Gifts Too

Fun Factory Massage Oil - RelaxingFun Factory Massage Oil

Sensual touch can be the gateway to deep, connected loving (as well as plenty of fun). Encouraging him to relax, breathe and take it slow can be incredibly sensual for men.

Fun Factory’s massage oils are enriched with argan oil and vitamin E so they leave the skin feeling soft, velvety and very sexy.

They come in 3 scents too – none of which are floral.

New Latex Gear

MaXXX Black is the only place in Sydney where you can pick up great quality latex gear for guys – without breaking the bank.

Our men’s skinny jeans (pictured) and matching military-style shirt are two of the hottest men’s items we’ve had in yet, and they’ll bring out the lover in him the moment he slips into the rubbery goodness. Plus they’ll make him look HOT, and who doesn’t want that?!

Tenga 3D Spiral Masturbator


Tenga has been changing the way guys play for years now – from their first cheeky little eggs to the 2011 smash-hit the Flip Air Lite. But it’s their latest creations that have guys from Tokyo to Melbourne singing their praises.

TENGA 3D are five awesome sex sleeves that are not only fun to play with, they look great, clean up super-fast, and even come with a way to store them safely and discreetly. Tenga know men, so if you’re after a toy that’s all about ‘him’ but that you can still play with together, TENGA 3D  is our pick.

FOR COUPLES : Some Things Are Better With Two

We Vibe 3 - Ruby Red

We Vibe 3

With an all-new motor (40% MORE powerful), a fully waterproof body, and a rechargeable battery – the world’s leading vibrator for couples and women has been reborn.

With the We Vibe 3 intimacy and fun are the name of the game, and fantastic climaxes are practically assured.

We Vibe was the first vibrator she wears while you make love, and if you thought vibes were fun in the bedroom, the new waterproof We Vibe 3 opens up all new worlds of play – shower or spa anyone?

LELO Accessories

Tied up? tied Down? Introduce a little slap’n’tickle this Valentine’s with this sensual collection of naughty budoir accessories from LELO.

From silk brocade hand restraints to glas handled suede floggers, it’s the little things that count (and excite).

Also in store – LELO massage candles, massage oils and personal moisture.

Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone!

Libidex Is Coming To Sydney!!!!

Wednesday, February 8th, 2012

Throughout 2011 we were very very proud to bring latex back to Sydney. We found Rubber55, got Honour & SkinTwo in-store and managed to get designer Matt Bylett to create a latex collection just for us. Plus with Vivishine and Vividress on our shelves, your latex (and future latex) has never looked better.

Well, the shiny revolution continues in 2012 with the official launch of a Libidex collection in Australia – right here at MaXXX Black.

We are beside ourselves with excitement – Libidex at MB means lots of new styles, colours and trims, and with new items coming in from other brands it looks like our Rubber Room might need to expand. We’ll keep you posted.

We know we’ve been chatting about Libidex fora few weeks now on Facebook and in-store, so letting you all know when they’re due would be kind right? Well, keep an eye out for the official launch announcement around the end of Feb. Our Libidex latex range is being expertly put together in London, and we expect it in just a couple of weeks.

Keep it Shiny!


Five Men’s Health Myths

Tuesday, February 7th, 2012

Christina Spaccavento is one of MB’s community network members and she is a brilliant therapist. Recently she contributed to an article in NewsLifeMedia’s Body & Soul. Here it is….

Myth 1: Low-carb beers don’t make you fat


It might be marketed that way, but dietician Kate diPrima says there’s much more to it. “This is a 150 million dollar segment of the industry, which thought they’d catch some health-conscious males,” she says. “Generally, beer is low in carbohydrates. It’s the total kilojoule content that makes a difference to your beer gut. Fat has 37kj per gram, alcohol has 29kj per gram and carbohydrates have 16kj per gram. So it is far better, from a health perspective, to choose a low-alcohol or reduced-alcohol beer and overall, to drink less. Try drinking a pot (285ml), rather than a 375ml stubby.” she says.

Myth 2: Impotence happens to everybody

True and false

“About 30-40 per cent of men will experience impotence,” says Christina Spaccavento, Acting CEO of Impotence Australia, sex therapist and relationship counsellor. Impotence can occur as a result of a medical, psychological or emotional condition, lifelong; or situational, Spaccavento notes. “Younger men will experience a higher level of psychological impotence, although this does tend to pass if they can deal with the emotions surrounding this. Older men tend to be affected for medical reasons, such as prostate, diabetes or heart issues,” she says. If you’re young and have experienced some level of erectile dysfunction make a visit to your doctor who will be able to look at the causes and, if necessary, make referral to sex therapist or specialist. For older men, Spaccavento advices to get a health check, “as it may be a sign of cardiovascular disease,” she says.

For more information call Impotence Australia on 1800 800 614.

Myth 3: Only women get PMT


A study by psychologists from the University of Derby, England, found that men suffer cyclical moodiness, discomfort and loss of concentration, just as women may during PMT. However, not all PMT is created equal. “Men’s mood can also be influenced by normal fluctuations or drops in testosterone levels with age,” says psychologist Dr Elizabeth Celi.

“This isn’t necessarily clinical or of concern. Our hormones naturally regulate our reproductive systems as well as our mood, and therefore our information-processing abilities. Men have normal psychological systems with mood fluctuations like anyone else: to reduce it to a PMT-equivalent is somewhat simplistic. Women’s menstrual cycles aren’t the only thing to affect their moods either,” she says.

Myth 4: Only women get the blues


“Men tend to be less emotional, but they still experience strong emotions. The difference is, that they’re culturally trained to not identify or express their feelings,” says Paul Martin, Principal Psychologist at Centre for Human Potential, Brisbane. “When we have emotions in the limbic (emotional) area of the brain, these need to travel through the language area [of the brain] and out the mouth through speech, or by writing issues down. This is called processing our emotions. With men, when there are emotions other than anger, they’re unlikely to express them.”

So that joke about grumpy old men has a degree of truth? “If men never process their feelings, this can result in depression, stress or anxiety. Rather than tears, they’ll withdraw into themselves and become less emotionally available or grumpy,” Martin says.

Myth 5: Do men get ‘man flu’?

True and false

“An understanding of masculinity is important when you’re dealing with men,” says Dr Ronald McCoy from the Royal Australian College of General Practitioners.

“Men usually hold the supportive role: we put a lot of responsibility on men to be the provider and to not be ill. Women are used to dealing with their health: pap smears, breast checks, childcare, and pregnancy. So when men get ill, it can be stressful and quite a shock to their emotions. Also, people overestimate how terrible a common cold can make you feel. It’s all about an individual’s response to their illness.” We women may think it’s humorous, but perhaps we should take their temperature before we get dismissive.