Archive for July, 2011

Product News: Douglas Kent’s Shibari Land Back In Print

Sunday, July 31st, 2011

It’s been unavailable in oz for some time now so when the publisher of Douglas Kent’s best-selling Complete Shibari Land told us it’s coming back we were very excited!

Land explores the essential ground-based ties and forms of shibari. With short, clear explanations and over 440 lavish, step-by-step illustrations and photographs, Douglas Kent introduces the basic “building blocks”, then guides you in applying those basics to create a full range of beautiful and exciting ground-based shibari ties.

This is not a “knot book” – if you can tie an overhand knot, you already know half the knots you’ll ever need. This practical, hands-on guide to doing shibari covers everything from choosing and preparing rope, to scene safety, to the techniques… and the reasoning behind the techniques.

Since going out of print the book has reached prices as high as US$190 as fans of rope tying and bondage do their best to get their hands on the very limited number of copies still out there.

All that changes on 29th August, when we will get a whole new stack of copies!!! Mark the date in your diary – you don’t want to miss out!

News: Sex Toy Sales Surge In A Weak US Economy

Saturday, July 30th, 2011

Courtesy of NetNet CNBC…

Sex sells. These days that’s almost a universal truth and, apparently, during an economic recession, sex-related sales—from Big Richard condoms & women’s vibrators to wine and chocolate—have been particularly hot.

“At a time when unemployment is high and bank account balances are low, people are passing the time by getting busy,” Stefan Dallakian, the owner of an online sex toy wholesaler said recently. It’s estimated that the sex-toy business is a $15 billion industry in the United States alone. As the U.S. economy has worsened, Dallakian said that he has seen sales for sex toys skyrocket.

At a time when the average consumer has less disposable income, Dallakian actually said that the Return On Investment, or ROI, has been quite high. Some models, like those from Swedish brand LELO, even come with a 10-year warranty, which he said, “works out to less than a cent per use, which makes it a much better investment than the stock market.”

It used to be that sex toys were only sold in specialty stores, but the shift to online purchasing has also boosted sales due to a key ingredient: anonymity. “People no longer have to drive to the porn store and make a face-to-face purchase,” Dallakian said. “Online ordering with discreet shipping saves you the embarrassment of exposing your kinks to strangers, and there’s absolutely zero risk of running into somebody you know while shopping.” As an added bonus to discreet shopping, ordering online is often cheaper and offers a wider selection of products.

While there are numerous offerings for a thrill on a budget (“sex toys are like shoes: there are lots for men, tons for women and a handful for both,” Dallakian said), customers with bigger wallets can find toys at higher price points as well. One such product, which Dallakian calls “the Bentley of vibrators at the price of a well-equipped Hyundai,” uses medical grade silicone in its premium design.  [editor: Lelo Luxe]

“Now the average consumer can afford the very best” Dallakian said.

Sex toy sales are especially on the rise with the younger generation in part because they have grown up in a culture that is more open to sexuality in many different forms, and in part because “younger generations are dealing with more stress than they have ever known,” Dallakian said. When it comes to the latter, Dallakian suggested that few things offer such relief as that “sexual healin’.”

A steady 9 percent unemployment rate in the United States and growth in self-employment also means that Americans are spending more time at home. And, as the idea of a “Staycation” has only received more buzz lately, people continue to opt to stay home in order to save money on gas and lodging. Dallakian says those economic realities only contribute to business by upping the desire for sexual expirimentation and being more in touch with our bodies and our partners. “Couples that log more hours together have stronger communication, and that is evident in the bedroom,” he said.

Whatever your thoughts on bringing toys into the bedroom, Dallakian made it clear: right now, the business of making love is booming.

NEW Toys For Boys – The TENGA Flip Air!

Friday, July 29th, 2011

These 4 fantastic additions to the best-selling TENGA men’s pleasure line is engineered so every guy, no matter what size he is, can have the best.

Available at both our online and Sydney stores from today theseries gives us boys a choice of two different textures/feels in four sizes. Sound complex? It’s not really, so here’s how it works:

1. Flip Air Lite Solid Black

Suitable for smaller to average guys up to 5.5″ long. A firm silicone body and heavier texture give a super-snug fit while providing intense stimulation.

2. Flip Air Lite Melty White

The smaller white Flip Air is a slightly looser fir than the black version, and guys who consider themselves an average length and girth will love this one. The Melty white toys have a super-soft and sensual interior.

3. Flip Air Solid Black

The same design interior as the Flip Air Lite, but made in a bigger scale for medium to longer men who have bit more girth.

4. Flip Air Melty White

Again, the same design as the Melty White Lite, but on a bigger scale, suiting larger guys with a wider girth.

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These are amazing toys – lightweight, phthalate and latex free, and with a deceptively sleek design they remain discreet to store away.We’ve had guys asking about these since they were first announced in January, so it’s fantastic to have them in now! Just check out this pic of the Solid Black:

It’s been a while since we’ve seen a new addition to men’s toys that has us excited – but Tenga’s Flip Air is certainly one of those.

Click on the titles above to see them on our website.

The Sex Coach: Phone Sex

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

When your lover is in absentia, it opens up wonderful possibilities for ‘distance sex’. With the range of technologies available these days, there’s no need to go celibate simply because your loved one’s not lying in bed next to you. In fact, absence can not only make the heart grow fonder, it can make the loins grow hotter!

So here are some pointers.

Keep it Real

Just because you’re talking sex with your lover, doesn’t mean you have to go all slutty and dirty like the paid phone sex girls – unless that’s your thing!  If you think you have to be something other than who you really are, then you’re going to feel awkward and it’s not going to feel good for either of you. So be yourself – mostly…

Push it a Little

Having said that, this is your opportunity to play and fantasise. I’ve had clients make amazing strides forward in opening up to each other, by being playful in their phone/email/skype/text sex.  You can start to push your comfort zones a little, because it’s safe, it’s just words!

Start Simple

If you’re wondering how to start, keep it simple. A comment like: “I was thinking about you last night in bed…” could be enough to get things going if your partner replies with: “Oh, yes, and what were you thinking…” From there you can start to describe something fairly normal for you, such as: “I was thinking how wonderful it feels when you caress my skin…” Then continue describing something that you regularly do and would like to be doing with your partner, or describe some particularly good sex that you have had in the past.

Get Creative

Once you’re comfortable with the general idea of talking about sex and describing sex with your partner, then you can start getting creative. You can ask each other questions such as:

‘What’s one thing we haven’t done that you’d like to do?’

‘What’s something you’d like to do with me that you wish you (or I) were brave enough?’

‘What’s something you wouldn’t actually want to do in real life, but the thought of it turns you on?’

Once you’ve got the germ of an idea, play with it. Put yourself in that situation and imagine how it might be.

The World’s Your Oyster

In fact, you might find it easier to be totally in fantasy land. Pretend you’re in another age, or another culture, even another planet!  What periods of history do you find sexiest? Perhaps a book or movie has inspired you. Could you be a pirate queen with her captive, the sultan or chief courtesan in a Turkish harem, lords and ladies in the court of King Louis, slaves or guests at an orgy in Roman times…? The possibilities are endless. Start describing any of these scenarios to your partner, and see where it takes you!

Get Your Partner Involved

You don’t have to do all the work! Ask your partner questions along the way, get them to suggest what they’d like or how they’d like the conversation to go. That makes it twice the fun!

Keep it Light

If the conversation starts going in a direction you don’t feel comfortable with, don’t panic! Let your partner know that that’s enough for the time being, to be continued later. Or steer the conversation back in a direction you do feel comfortable with.  You can always start with: “Oh, I don’t think so! I think this might happen…” Keep it light, keep it playful.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Importantly, if your partner says anything that upsets you, don’t turn nasty and take it out on your partner. You need to realise that you’re both playing with your boundaries here, you’re both testing ideas and thoughts, it’s as much a learning experience as a sexual experience.

Cheat

If you’re really stuck with what to say, get a book of erotica and read one of the short stories to your partner. That could be enough in itself, or be the basis of further discussion….

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Like anything, it can be awkward to get started, but you get better with practice.  You’ll probably surprise yourself with just how creative you can get!

Gallery: The Nike High Heel – For Good or Evil?

Tuesday, July 26th, 2011

MaXXXie loves a good fashion fix, and in searching for new trends and outfit ideas we happened to stumble across some heels with a difference – NIKE High Heels! Morphed into a sexy pair of stilettos, High Heel Nike Jordans are a line of all-star pumps that would score some major points with the fashionista set.

Now, we haven’t made up our mind about these. On one hand the unique look of every pair is awesome, but then the whole sneaker with a heel is completely out there! But we pass no judgement – they are fab purely because they are so different.

Enjoy the Gallery…..

EVENTS: Inquisition 19 + Black & White Ball

Sunday, July 24th, 2011

Looking for something to do on the weekend og August 6th?

Want a chance to either dress up dress down, or both?

Well it’s gonna be one hell of a weekend in Sydney with two of the most popular adult party events happening on the same night!

Inquisition 19 returns this brilliant party to it’s dark and dirty roots – Fox Studio’s The Dome. With some of the hottest Dj’s, and a fetish theme for all of us to aspire to, you don’t to miss this party if you wnt a chance to strut your leather, latex, or just show off your daddy.

The Black and White Ball is the annual fundraising gala for Sydney’s world-famous Dykew On Bikes. As one of our most important queer cultural institutions and what with all the amazing things they do for all of us all year (you’d be amazed how hard DOB works to raise money for those in need), this the event that lets us support them.

MaXXX Black is a proud stockist of tickets to both events – just pop on into thestore between 10am and midnight, 7 days.

News: German Safety Study Demands New Laws For Sex Toys

Saturday, July 23rd, 2011

GERMANY’S Green party have asked for a government investigation into high levels of potentially dangerous chemicals in sex toys.

“Consumers must be protected when it comes to sexual health. Feigned embarrassment or false taboos should not prevent information getting out and checks being done,” MP Volker Beck said yesterday.

The party wants Chancellor Angela Merkel’s government to investigate legal limits to the levels of certain chemicals in dildos, vibrators and other sex aids and announce plans to reduce risk.

Studies in recent years have shown that plastic sex toys contain high levels of substances like phthalate, thought to upset hormone levels in women and cause infertility and diabetes, the Greens claimed.

The Greens Party has called for new laws to regulate sex toys so that the use of carcinogenic plasticisers like Phthalates can be regulated or indeed stopped altogether.

According to Der Spiegel on July 1, German officials warn that these toxic substances can enter the body through mucous membranes and lead to a host of health problems, such as infertility, hormone imbalances, diabetes, and even obesity.

In 2004 the European Union banned phthalates in products intended for infants, and the US followed suit in 2008.

Visitors look at sex toys and dildos at a stand on the industry professionals' day at the 2010 Venus Erotic Fair at Messe Berlin on October 21, 2010 in Berlin, Germany. The trade fair will be open from October 21 through 24.

Denmark has responded to the sex toy warnings by advising that users cover dildos and vibrators with condoms for protection and avoid products made with PVC.

In the US sex toys are mostly unregulated, but US expert Stefanie Iris Weis, author of Eco-Sex: Go Green Between the Sheets and Make Your Love Life Sustainable, told iVillage that one tip is to give your sex toys the “sniff test,” she says. “If it has new-car smell, put it down.” Instead look for toys made from medical-grade silicone, she adds, and opt for vibrators with rechargeable batteries for a more eco-friendly choice.

Glass sex toys, commonly made from clear medical grade borosilicate or hard glass, are also marketed as a safe and nontoxic option.

From MaXXX: No need to worry if you shop here at MaXXX Black for your adult needs – we only ever stock 100% Phthalate-Free, body-safe toys!

The Sex Coach: Neuroplasticity = Moulding Your Brain For Sex

Thursday, July 21st, 2011

Greetings from Vietnam! I’m here for two weeks doing a spiritual retreat again. This week my partner, Oscar, is doing it as it’s his first time, and I’ll be doing next week’s as it’s my second. So I have a week to relax and reflect in an extremely beautiful and serene garden resort on the shores of the South China Sea.

I’ve been doing a lot of writing for my next book on female sexual archetypes – which will be a world first in the new literary genre of therapeutic erotica! More of that another time…

What has been interesting has been observing the participants of this week’s retreat. Over the five days of the retreat there has been an observable change in them, and they all report a significant change within themselves. Five days of guided meditations and discussions clearly shifts ‘stuff’ for people. This is a great example of neuroplasticity – the brain changing its circuitry. Given the opportunity for stillness and guided reflection, the circuits of these people are changing quite rapidly. This change in the brain allows for definite and continued positive change from here on.

I love the fact that brain researchers have proven this plasticity. Many years ago as an undergraduate biochemistry student studying neuroscience, I was dismayed that the thinking of the day was that the brain was simply a computer and the job of the scientist was to figure out what the bits were and how they interacted. I remember being scoffed at for suggesting it might be otherwise. So I didn’t pursue that line of study.

Now we know that the brain is a wonderful organic system that constantly changes and adapts to the inputs coming into it, all through life. So if your life is stressful and you input negative thoughts, your brain circuitry will reinforce and reflect that reality. That will become the filter through which you experience the world – as negative and stressful. If you have positive thoughts and experiences then your brain will reinforce and reflect that reality – you’ll be looking at the world with a rose-coloured brain!

It becomes a feedback loop – either increasingly negative or increasingly positive.

The exciting thing is that you can change your circuitry. Working on your personal growth is essentially about rewiring your brain.

Which brings me to sex. If you have negative views, expectations and experiences around sex you can change them to positive ones. You don’t have to be stuck in your ‘story’ (brain circuitry) that says that sex is scary/disgusting/sinful/odd/boring/painful/unnecessary/addictive. Your story about not being into sex because: you’re a mother/disabled/old/from a repressed background/a victim of abuse/too busy/too tired/too whatever; or your story that you’re entitled to sex because you’re a man/married/a helpless addict/a victim of abuse/stressed/whatever – can be changed.

One of the wonderful things about sex, is that you can change your neural wiring to more positive circuits while actually having sex, assuming it’s intimate sex. Just as the participants on the retreat here are making huge changes in a short amount of time through quietness and concentrated reflection, so can you make major sexual changes through a more sensual, subtle approach to sex and intimacy.

Making love in a beautiful environment, calm, soft and inviting is the start. Then progressing slowly with loving touch, melting hugs, feeling each others’ presence as much as your bodies, gazing into each others yes, gives your brain the time and space to rewire in positive ways. Over time, the wiring in your brain will respond to the thought of sex in a positive way, knowing that it is an enjoyable positive experience. It will send messages throughout your body to prepare it for pleasure through the release of hormones, muscle relaxation, slowing your heartbeat, etc.

When two people’s brains are wired sex-positively, they come together in openness, not anxiety/resignation/annoyance/fear of rejection, etc. The more you come together in this way, the stronger the wiring becomes and the easier it is to enjoy love-making.

This applies to solo sex too. The more you send positive messages to your brain, the more you experience enjoyable solo sex, the better the brain rewires to reinforce the view that solo sex (and the genitals involved) is good.

It’s important that you reinforce this rewiring in the whole of your life. Surround yourself with things and experiences that heighten your senses, your enjoyment of life. Avoid people with a sex-negative view of the world and reach out and interact with people with a positive view. Reading this newsletter is a great example! As is attending my workshops, or seeing me privately.

Remember it’s a positive feedback loop, the more positivity you put in your life, the more positive it becomes, and due to neuralplasticity, it becomes increasingly easier to be more positive – until you get to the point where it’s your natural state of being and you can’t help but be joyful!

Who’s brain are we talking about? Yours. So it’s up to you to take control of your brain, make the choice to feed it positively. Honour your life and your role in creating it whichever way you choose. Your brain will back you up on that, but you’re the creator.

History News: The Truth About Hitler & Sex Dolls

Wednesday, July 20th, 2011

LONDON: Nazi dictator Adolf Hitler had ordered sex toys for his troops as many of them were contracting sex diseases from French prostitutes, records have revealed.

While researching the history of Barbie, which was based on a post-war German sex doll, author Graeme Donald uncovered Hitler’s secretive ” Borghild Project”.

Under the World War II project that began in 1940, Nazi scientists developed the “synthetic comforters” for the German soldiers who were enjoying themselves a bit too much in Paris.

The problem was so bad it was keeping many of the troops from their frontline duties, the Sun reported.

Hitler conceived the project following a report from SS chief Heinrich Himmler, who wrote: “The greatest danger in Paris is the widespread and uncontrolled presence of whores, picking up clients in bars, dance halls and other places.

Le Chabanais - WW2 Bordello

“It is our duty to prevent soldiers from risking their health for the sake of a quick adventure.”

According to Donald, Hitler personally approved the plan for the blonde and blue-eyed “gynoid” dolls, which were small enough to fit into a backpack.

They were tested by soldiers in Nazi-occupied Jersey. Himmler was so impressed that he ordered 50 for his own troops, Donald found from the records.

But in 1942 the project was axed when German soldiers refused to carry the dolls because of the potential embarrassment if they were captured by the British.

“In the end the idea fizzled out and the place where they were made and all the dolls were destroyed in the bombing of Dresden,” Donald said.

Review: Smartballs Teneo Uno (Kegel Balls)

Saturday, July 16th, 2011

It’s no secret that MaXXX Black is a big fan of Kegel exercising (or pelvic floor muscles if you like). The results from simple exercises and toys can make big differences to a woman’s health and sexuality, and it’s impact is felt as much by their partners as by the women themselves.

So this week we’re reviewing Fun Factory‘s kegel offering – the Smartballs Teneo Uno.

Available as either a single ball, the Teneo Uno, or two balls connected, the Teneo Duo, these are slightly different in design than the original Smartballs, but they still come packaged in the Fun Factory way. The box has a clear window on the front so you can see the product, and then the back of the box has flaps that open up to reveal another clear plastic window. The insides of the flaps are printed with basic information and a product map. Inside is the Teneo Uno encased in a clear plastic clamshell, a sample of water-based lube, a small Fun Factory product catalog, and user’s instructions (printed in several different languages).

Smartballs Teneo Uno are similar to the original Smartballs in that they’re hollow with a smaller weighted ball inside that rattles around, creating subtle vibration and internal stimulation. The idea is that the PC muscles will naturally contract to keep the balls in place, so that just wearing them will help strengthen your pelvic floor, but their weight also adds some resistance, giving the user something to squeeze against.

An improvement over the original, Smartballs Teneo feature a indentation on the bottom for easy insertion. It’s a perfect fingertip-sized groove, and it makes positioning a cinch. There’s also a silicone retrieval cord attached to the bottom for hassle-free removal.

Our testers noticed distinct differences in their muscle strength in as little as 14 days. For most women, with daily use, you will start to notice changes (and they are GOOD changes) withiin a month. Interestingly, it was our testers’ partners you noticed changes in muscle strength and ‘tightness’ first.

For women who are looking at duo balls, geisha balls or kegel exercisers for the first time, the Teneo Uno is ideal. It’s lighter weight and shorter design will be easier to hold in. They’re almost totally silent and the mild vibration caused by the internal ball are subtle but still pleasurable. Combine it with your favourite clitoral vibe and you’ll have a fantastic solo play session too!

Like all of Fun Factory‘s toys Smartballs are made from 100% Phthalate-Free Silicone and are safe to use with water-based lubricants. In fact, your kegel exercises are going to be easier, more fun, and more pleasurable with a little of your favourite glycerin-free lube.

Smartballs Teneo Uno and Teneo Duo balls are available from MaXXX Black’s web-store and Newtown store from just #35.00.