Archive for June, 2011

PRODUCT NEWS: Honour & Skin Two Latex Arrives @ MaXXX Black!

Thursday, June 30th, 2011

The wait is over.

Our new latex collections from Honour UK & Skin Two Clothing have arrived in store!

Our all-new rubber room is being decked out with all the rubbery awesomeness these two world-famous fetish labels can offer. Alongside the bespoke garments and accessories from Rubber 55 will be a little bit of everything for the latex lover – from catsuits and gloves to men’s jeans, leggings and tops it must be said that MaXXX Black is…

Sydney’s New Home of Latex & Fetish Fashion.

The MB Rubber Room will be open:

Sunday – Thursday : 10am to Midnight

Thursday & Friday : 10am to 6pm

Stay tuned over the next few days for more details about the new labels, and all the goodies we have in store!

Events: Sydney, Get Ready to Party!!!

Monday, June 27th, 2011

Strap yourselves in Sydney – it might be cold outside but the party season is just about to kick off, and MaXXX will have tickets to some of the best! In just the next few weeks there will be four fabulous events – it’s going to be hard to pick a favourite – so why not do them all!

Friday 8th July – Hot Kandi  “A Night In Sin City – Vegas Baby”

Hot Kandi returns for it’s 10th Party and the biggest party yet to celebrate their 2nd year of holding some of Sydney’s hottest parties. This Vegas-themed night of sin city delights will be held at a glamorous new venue too! Click the pic to see more.

Saturday 9th July – Carnal Rubber by SLPA

It’s time to put on that latex, slick on lube and get things shiny, because Carnal Rubber is coming.

Saturday July 9th SLPA are hosting the dirtiest gummi fetish night of the year. The latest installment in the Carnal party program from Sydney Leather Pride will bring together filthy fetish fashionistas, perverted performers, music from the dirtiest DJs imaginable and more latex clad sweaty hot bodies than you can imagine all in a secret CBD location.

Click the pic for more details.

Tickets  On Sale At MaXXX Black NOW

Saturday 9th July – Dykes On Bikes Black and White Ball

Sydney’s world-famous  Dykes On Bikes hold their Black and White Ball every year. It’s their major fundraiser, and MaXXX Black is delighted to be supporting them again this year. It’s a fun, B&W themed night and a perfect excuse to dress up for some worthwile partying.

Tickets will be on sale at MaXXX Black in the next few days.

Saturday 6th August – Inquisition by SLPA

You’ve all wanted it, you’ve all asked for it. You’ve all missed that dark dirty feeling inside. So we’re gonna give it to you, and give it to you hard.

SLPA are happy to announce Inquisition is going back to….. THE DOME.

With four of the hottest Dj’s from Sydney and Melbourne to get you moving, and some of the filthiest fetish acts around to leave you breathless, Inquisition 19 will be sure to warm all your special places.

Click the Pic for more info.

A party not to be missed – TICKETS ON SALE AT MB NOW!

Designer Condoms: Chanel, Marc Jacobs Make Safe Sex Cool

Sunday, June 26th, 2011

Fashion designers and major mainstream brands have made billions using sex to sell everything from sunglasses to sandals, but it seems they’ve decided to skip the innuendo and get straight down to business – the condom busines to be specific.

Over the last 12 months a bunch of major designers have created wrappers for safe-sex campaigns or launched their very own ranges of safe-sex products. The most notable being Chanel, who created the Chanel Condom in black or white.  The white version says “Keep It Classy” and the Black (for the cheekier client) says “For Use By Trendy Sluts” which must be a translation issue. Only it’s not. And a pack of 12 will set you back over $200.

Also entering the fray are Marc Jacobs and Louis Vouitton, who will market their condoms with the slogan “Inside every story, is a beautful journey”. Louis Vuitton is a major supporter of health foundations in Europe and created the condom for World Aids Day – the classic LV logo is actually stamped into the condom!

But if that wasn’t enough, there are these:

United Colors of Benetton

Alexander Wang & Jeremy Scott

KISS Condoms


christian audigier sex line ed hardy condom ChristianAudigier_Ed Hardy condom

Christian Audigier (Ed Hardy)


But these sexy little rubbers aren’t just being produced by the big brands – even cities and hotels are getting in on ‘the action’ with their own products for public and guest health and safety…

New York City

W Hotels of New York

There you have it. Know of anymore? send them into!

The Sex Coach: True Intimacy

Saturday, June 25th, 2011

Self help books, women’s magazines and traditional therapists extol the virtues of intimacy as the way to improve your relationship and therefore have better sex. The two key aspects to this ‘intimacy’ are:  1) to become more connected by spending more time together, and 2) to communicate (by speaking) every little thing about yourself, and conversely listening wondrously in rapt attention agreeing in perfect accord with every utterance.

Which would imply most of us haven’t got a snowflake’s chance in hell of having a decent sex life…

Fear not. You can breathe a sigh of relief because this means that in fact you will avoid that stifling arrangement of co-dependent ‘intimacy’ we too often think is the prerequisite for ‘happily ever after”.

Now certainly intimacy does require connection and communication, but it’s the how, the what and the how much that matters. Let’s look at the two fundamental aspects of intimacy – connection and communication – debunk a few myths and look at what really matters.

First, connection. Supposedly we need to have lots of quality time together to feel intimate. But in fact you don’t have to even be physically near each other to feel connected. Especially in this digital age there are myriad ways to connect without being physically present. Even when you are together, it doesn’t have to be ‘quality’ time, i.e. time that is spent highly focused on each other, more of that rapt attention stuff. Just spending time together in an unfocused hanging-out kind of way can actually be a better way of enjoying each other’s company than high intensity time together. (How often have you seen couples in restaurants eating without speaking? Not a lot of intimate connection going on there. They’d be better off doing the gardening together or going for a walk where there is more distraction, less intensity and surprisingly more ease of connection).

We’re also supposed to improve our ‘connection’ by sharing common interests and learning to enjoy those that aren’t in common. Well, that’s not necessary either. While it’s good to have some interests in common, you don’t have to have everything in common, and there’s no onus on you to learn to like those that aren’t. There’s nothing wrong with having different interests, it doesn’t mean you’re not suited, it doesn’t mean you’re not close. Quite the opposite, maintaining connection in the face of difference is bonding if you respect and appreciate the difference.

This can be intimidating for some people though. They fear that sense of separateness. They fear that if they’re not fused they could lose the other person. These people become jealous and fiercely attached to their partner. Any sense of flirting is felt as potential or actual infidelity and is the hovering angel of death to the relationship. There is no trust, only a desperate clinging. This is not true intimacy.

It’s also intimidating because of the threat of rejection. If your partner is different to you then they may not agree with you and that can be a frightening thing. It’s scary to know that the person whose opinion you value the most and whose agreement you crave might reject your thought or action or opinion. Shock, horror, that could cause disharmony, and we all know that the “perfect relationship” is harmonious.

It might be, but not through fear of difference, only through appreciation of difference. If you’re holding yourself back and not expressing your true self, not living with a sense of integrity, because you fear your partner’s disapproval and crave their validation, then you are not being truly intimate.

When you interact like this you cannot have good communication, that quality so espoused by the self help gurus. Look, of course communication is essential, it’s how it’s done that matters. Too often communication is equated with speaking, whereas communication is effected through so many ways, not just spoken. Even considering the verbal aspect, more is communicated through tone of voice and body posture than the actual words (which is why arguing never works because the arguers are reacting to the tone not the content). But communication also occurs through touch, looks, through silence, through action, and definitely through sex. In fact when a couple have truly intimate sex they communicate their inner beings far more profoundly than any conversation could ever do.

Receiving the content of the communication is also crucial to effective conveying of meaning. But what is receiving content and how are you expected to respond? When the communication is spoken, listening openly to the other person is important, but it doesn’t have to be in rapt wonderment, affirming every utterance in mutual accord. Listen with respect, certainly, but not under any pressure to agree.

Just as importantly, being open to communication in non-verbal ways is essential to true intimacy, you can’t just expect verbal cues. Your partner expresses feelings and thoughts constantly, in actions, gestures, moods, silences, and of course, in making love with true intimacy.

Even being open to this type of communication requires true intimacy, because it requires you to show your real self without needing validation from the other person, and without feeling that you have to give it to the other person. True intimacy is not expressed through jealousy, fear or anxiety.

True intimacy requires integrity of your self. You need to show yourself and be seen. To do that you need separation, difference, distance, a sense of ‘other’.

This is essential for good relationship, and it is essential for good sex. Why? Because only with true intimacy can you express your sexuality without fear of rejection or displeasure by your partner. It’s only when you can truly know and express your eroticism that you can enjoy the other key element to extraordinary sex: erotic tension.

5 Reasons Why Masturbation Is Good For Mothers

Friday, June 24th, 2011

Whether your a single mum, a new mum, or one that’s been caring for years, solo-play is an essential part of your health and wellbeing, not just your sexual health either.

For any mum (new mums and mums-to-be especially) playing with toys like LELO Luna Balls or the Fun Factory Smartballs can help get ‘down there’ back to ship-shape health. By strengthening you pelvic floor muscles you make everything down there strogner, from your vaginal muscles all the way through to bladder control. Perhaps most importantly exercise can mean you have stronger, and more frequent, orgasms.

Beyond physical conditioning, sex toys and pleasure objects help us to explore our bodies, getting to know what where and how something feels good. Our pleasure as women, not mothers, is what is important – and connecting to that part of ourselves promotes a whole host of happy good things on a very real level.

So here are our 5 reasons Mothers should masturbate…

1. Stress Reduction!

Yes, masturbation really does relax you, and mothers are some of the most stressed-out people I know! A more relaxed Mom will make the whole family happier. How does that old saying go? “When Mom’s not happy, nobody’s happy!”
2. More Fun For Your Partner!

It seems the more women masturbate, the more open they are to their partner’s sexual advances. At first this seems odd. If she’s taking care of her “needs” by herself, wouldn’t she want less sex? Turns out the answer is no. Now whether that’s because masturbating makes women hornier, or horny women masturbate more is for you to decide. Also, women like to have multiple orgasms…Maybe the first one she gives herself is like an appetizer, gearing her up for more action with her man.

3. It Promotes Sleep!

Mothers are notorious for being in bad moods due to lack of sleep, especially new Moms who wake up frequently to nurse or give bottles during the night. Masturbating at bed time is a perfect way to help your body wind-down from a busy day.

4. Strengthens the Pelvic Floor!

I know I already said it but – Do your Kegels, do your kegels! It’s like a mother’s mantra during and after pregnancy. Luckily, orgasms are another great way to tone up those inner muscles. This may be one of the only honestly fun kinds of exercise that exists.

5. Did I Already Say Stress Reduction?

The No Excuses Guide to Soulmates

Thursday, June 23rd, 2011

On our travels we picked up this book at the recent Sydney Mind Body Spirit Festival. Whilst we don’t stock it (yet) we can highly recommend this to anyone who is longing to understand more about personal relationships, particularly the deeper relationships we all seek at some point.

Written by acclaimed pagan author Stacey Demarco and one of Australia’s best mediums, Jade-Sky, this book is an open guide to navigating the kinds of deep connections that are available to all of us. Several MaXXX Black staffers have already read and appreciated what is a unique and uplifting look at soul mates.

Whether you are pagan, christian, athiest or somewhere in the middle, this book is for you. It doesn’t dwell on the spiritual as much as the interpersonal and everyone can relate, learn and grow from this wonderful book.

From the Publisher…….

Attract the Relationship you Want and Stop Making Mistakes in Love-

“The No Excuses Guide to Soulmates” is a new book which offers a decidedly spiritual yet ‘tough love’ programme to get the partner that you want and to stop making mistakes in love.

Meta-physicist and Witch Stacey Demarco and Medium Jade-Sky, are offering a  ‘no excuses’ way to attract the relationship you really want, cleanse a toxic heart and make space for a delicious new relationship.

“When we were kids, there was a boogie man to be scared of that lived under our bed. Now that same monster lives in our empty side of the bed.” says Stacey Demarco.

” Never before has there been such an intense collective fear of being alone and partner-less in our society.Instead of feeling connected and partner-free, there is a wave of desperation and misunderstanding, causing complex game playing, pain and co-dependence.”

“The No Excuses Guide to Soulmates” shines a light on these relationship monsters and banishes them for good. The book gives practical and proven techniques that will help you stop making the same old mistakes in love and attract the great relationships you deserve whilst increasing dating pleasure. Stacey and Jade also provide practical tools to break destructive patterns and build personal self esteem.

One area of particular interest to those of a spiritual nature is the idea that there isn’t just ‘one’ soulmate for them…but many. Readers can learn how to identify the four different kinds of soul mates each person has, and see how this knowledge can assist in a better selection of suitable mates. Less pain, more gain!

The book also gives great guidance on how to detox from the toxins of your Ex’s.

“We have worked with literally thousands of people and we have seen that it is very common for people to hold on to an old, destructive relationship even when it holds them back from something they say they really want…a new better relationship!”  comments Stacey.
Jade-Sky adds:“We show people how to soul detox. This is probably one of the most effective weapons against fear when we are tempted to backslide into an old destructive relationship or not move on to something new.”
“We want people to truly leave behind the pull of that dreaded Ex and get what they want for a change. If you think you have been unlucky in love, this is the book for you.” says Jade.

The “No Excuses Guide to Soul Mates” (published by Rockpool Publishing) is available in all good bookstores, and hopefully at MAXXX Black very soon.

The Corset: Yesterdy and Today

Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011

Corsets are universally popular, both with the ladies who wear them and the men who get to watch a woman in one. And it’s an enduring love affair, spanning some 4 centuries and countless variations. Even today designers, artists, fashionistas and fetishistas are finding new ways to reinvent the fantasy.

First, here’s a short look at the history of the corset….


An early form of the corset was the Elizabethan “pair of bodies” which provided support and flattened the bust. It also provided a foundation garment over which a gown’s bodice (also called a pair of bodies) was worn. There are two surviving examples today. One is from the grave of Pfalzgrafin Dorothea Sabina von Neuberg from 1598 and the other is from Queen Elizabeth I’s effigy in 1603.

17th and 18th Centuries

From the end of the 17th century corsets or “stays” had changed slightly to give the wearer a more slender silhouette.

By the mid 18th century stays had curved whalebone to shape the front of the bust and across the back to flatten the shoulder blades. They were often covered in beautiful fabric or embroidery

18th Century Stays

19th Century

In the beginning of the 19th century stays were unfashionable and those that could did without them. However, those who were too large for the fashionable flowing, formfitting gowns and needed something to control their excess flesh continued to wear stays. When they came back into fashion around 1809-1810 they were called by their modern name: the corset. For the first time it was not a rigid body but a curved one. It was made “… from strong cotton material (jean, later know as coutil)”

Victorian Corset

It had shoulder straps until the 1840s and later, if the wearer needed them, for a little more support for the bust. Several new inventions helped corset manufacture during the 19th century: metal eyelets in 1828, the first front opening steel busk in 1829 and the spoon busk in 1873. White corsets were considered more ladylike. Corsets were also made in grey, putty, red and black but were always lined in white

Since the beginning of the 20th Century however, Corsets became less and less about everyday shape and fashion and began a slow course of developing into the sensual, mysterious, and thoroughly feminine fashion they are today. The rise of the burlesque scene in the 30’s and 40’s and it’s recent resurgence has seen new heights of popularity.

mr pearl with cane

Mr Pearl

Corsets are curious things– they’re fetishized, misunderstood, and there’s much misinformation about them all. They’re the subject of heated debate when it comes to feminism, medical and anatomical reality, history, and more. This series is to expand upon that knowledge and to serve as a focal point for women (and men!) curious about corsetry… what it is, what it does, how it works, how to shop for one, and what to expect.

What IS a corset, exactly?
A corset is, historically, an undergarment that provides support and shape to a woman’s figure. In our modern age, it is worn both as outerwear or underwear and still provides shape and support to a body. A corset is typically made from 3-4 layers of fabric, laces up the back (or front, and sometimes both!), and is boned in key points, typically with steel. However, there are corsets (such as summer and swimming ones) that may be made with one layer of fabric or may be made to resemble a “cage.” Corsets come in a very large variety of styles, as corset styles varied with the fashions of an era.

Dita in a Mr Pearl Corset

IMPORTANT NOTE: A corset is NOT the same as a bustier or corset-style top. These are typically boned with plastic, made with a layer of fashion fabric, and are not meant to shape your body. These are purely fashionable garments only. Trying to wear a bustier or corset-style top as a proper corset can lead to more bodily damage than a corset can.

What does a corset DO?
You may be wondering what it means when I say a corset “shapes” your body. After all, control-top hose and a pair of Spanx can technically do that. A corset uses a certain amount of compression to redistribute the body’s fat. Most people associate a corset with creating a more curvaceous silhouette to a woman’s body, much like an hourglass. However, there are periods which create other shapes, such as a more cone shaped Elizabethan form (focusing on pressing a woman’s breasts upwards) or a tubular shape.

Corset by Mr Pearl

Extreme Corsetry

It seems that for almost as long as the corset has been cinching us in that there have been those out there who covet the extreme end of the

fashion spectrum Extreme Corsetry is still practised today by both men and women. Most often the goal is to achieve an extremely small waist by gradual constriction over a number of months or years. Mr Pearl (pictured above) is one of the most famous examples – his cinched waist is a mere 18″. His corsets are world-famous, even appearing in garments for Christian Lacroix.

Seen on catwalks, in fetish clubs, and even worn over jeans, the humble (and not so humble) corset is one of the most enduring pieces of fashion ever created.

The Sex Coach: Unconditional Love Requires Self-Validation

Saturday, June 18th, 2011

Do you love unconditionally, or are there conditions to your love? You might have some romantic illusion that your love is pure, but really, it probably comes with a lot of strings attached. “I will love you if you love me” is the most obvious. There there is: “I will love you if you are nice to me”, “I will love you if you share my values and beliefs”, “I will love you if you agree with me”, “I will love you if you validate me”.

You might think you love the other person, but are there these requirements that come along with it? Do you really love the other person for who they are and who they’ve become over your time together? Or do you love your version of who you’d like them to be, or who you’ve convinced yourself they are? Do they need to fit some image of who you think or want your partner to be?

What are these conditions based on? Generally fear. The inability to validate yourself creates a need to have the other validate you, to make you feel ok about yourself and your own values, beliefs and world view.

This conditional loving commonly goes both ways. Both partners have entered into an unwritten agreement that they will validate the other so that their unit stands strong. Neither will risk upsetting the other by challenging their norm or challenging these unwritten conditions they’ve both ascribed to.

Until things go pear-shaped. And the reality that they are both living in a fantasy world that they both adhered to becomes apparent. One or both becomes so miserable that they just can’t do it any longer. The pretense is too hard. They feel too stifled or too unappreciated, too used or too abused. This will present as some kind of crisis – a health breakdown, mental breakdown, an affair, a mid-life crisis, a major change in behaviour, a complete withdrawal, walking out on the relationship seemingly out of nowhere…

When this happens you have three choices:

  1. separate and take your dysfunctions out into a new relationship, feeling bitter and twisted about the one you just left
  2. stay in the relationship and flat-line, not addressing the issues, covering them up and pretending everything’s ok (until the next crisis emerges)
  3. learn to self-validate.

Most people choose the first two options. They are the easier ones.

I recommend the third. It’s hard though, hence the benefit in having someone like me help you with it. To start, you have to be able to examine yourself so openly and honestly that you can know and accept your flaws, and your strengths, and know that your world view is simply that, yours. The next is to be able to accept the reality of your partner in their entirety, warts and all. That requires open, honest and real communication. Genuine sharing – and this is the most important point of all – without needing them to validate you. That means you don’t get defensive, you don’t tell them they’re wrong, you listen and feel and accept with a completely open heart. Don’t get me wrong, this is not easy. But it’s the only way that two people can be real with each other and thereby grow as individuals and as a couple. No defences, genuine meeting.

If in doing this you realise that the other person is not for you, or you’re not for them, then fine, you end the relationship with maturity and love and walk away as a whole person, not one desperately seeking validation elsewhere.

This is the beauty of relationship. David Schnarch calls it ‘the sexual crucible’, it’s how relationship allows you to grow, if you let it, if you’re willing to do the work.

Otherwise, be bitter, or flat-line. It’s your choice. It’s all your choice, once you realise it’s your choice. You don’t have to bind another to you with conditional love, and you don’t have to be bound by it.

You can both love unconditionally. You can both be free. If you’re brave enough.

And need I say, sex within an unconditionally loving relationship is far far better as you can both let yourselves go with realness and genuine passion.

Gallery: Nightclub With The Wow Factor!

Friday, June 17th, 2011

Urban Interiorities by Virginia Melnyk and Tiffany Dahlen

Urban Interiorities is a project by Virginia Melnyk and Tiffany Dahlen, regent graduates of the University of Pennsylvania School of Design. Working closely with Professor Ali Rahim, the students developed a “new approach to the night club experience” through novel modeling and rendering techniques, whereby generated surfaces—billowing, crenulated, orchid-like—exert intense visualizations of sensations.

Designed for a site situated at the buffer space between the trendy, youth-driven culture of Harajuku and the haute-couture of Omontesando, the night club merges both the youthful and luxurious into slick, mediated spaces. The club’s equally diverse program consists of an entry area, sushi restaurant, a sake bar, music lounge, and VIP rooms.

Melnyk tells us, “The project took four months to design and a myriad of changes through the development. It is not by chance that the project looks sweet like Candyland — much of our inspiration came from the sensations of taste and our perception of a visualization of these sensations. It is our hope that this project will push boundaries and leave viewers with a wider imagination of what architecture and design can be.”

The volume of the club is a milky white frame with a curious mix of areas on the interior: “sticky” and “sweet,” “pillowy,” and even “fibrous.” Movement through the club yields extremes of achingly synthetic notions of taste.

Aware of the ubiquity of swelling organic forms among students and practices alike, Melnyk and Dahlen did not stop at these heavily modeled zones. Instead, the sequence of programs is specific, provoking varying states of sensation and subsequent emotional responses as one passes through the interior spaces.

Yum, Yum, and Yum. Why can’t Australian designers be brave enough to give us spaces that are this inspiring?

NEW PRODUCT: Mixgliss Lubricants From France

Thursday, June 16th, 2011

We’ve done it again – MaXXX Black is proud to be the FIRST store in Australia to launch MIXGLISS – a beautiful range of natural lubricants made in Provence, France.

We’re passionate about lubricants – not just because they make everything more sensual, fun and sexy – but also because we’re seeing more and more personal lubricants that are good for us too. So when we came across Mixgliss we were absolutely delighted!

Created in Grasse en Provence, France’s world-famous capital of perfumery, Mixgliss is a combination of specialised natural alchemy and truly original frangrances, flavours and styles. Utilising plant-based ingredients, essential oils and natural preservatives there are 10 (yes, TEN) new kinds of lubricant for you to try.

So what are they? Well, lets split it up into the different kinds and go from there….

1. NeutralLUB water-based and FLUID silicone based are the two “naturally neutral” choices. NO flavour or scent, just pure slippery goodness.


2. Silicone Scented – With the same great silicone base as FLUID, the two frangranced silicone lubes are just lovely. WILD has a hint of musk and PURE has a wonderful orchid perfume.

Mixgliss WILD - Musk Silicone Lubricant

Mixgliss PURE - Orchid Silicone Lubricant

3. Water-Based Flavoured – Treat yourself to a flavoured lubricant made from natural ingredients and featuring flavours that no-one else can make. KISS tastes like Wild Strawberries and SWEET has the delectable flavour of Tutti Frutti Bubble Gum!

4. Water-Based Actives – If you like to play with new sensations, or just want to ramp up the fun why not try a cooling or warming lubricant. FRESH is a lightly cooling lubricant with natural extracts of peppermint and rosemary. HOT is a gently warming lube with natural extracts of cinnamon.

Mixgliss Fresh -  Cooling Peppermint Lubricant

Mixgliss Hot - Warming Cinnamon Lubricant

5. Water-Based Health & Wellbeing – The latest formulas from Mixgliss are BIO and RELAX. BIO is made from 100% organic plant extracts, which makes it ideal for those with sensitivities, vegetarians, vegans and anyone who wants a totally natural experience. RELAX is the first water-based anal lubricant we’ve ever stocked. In fact, we think it may be a first anywhere. Designed as a relaxant as well as a great lon-lasting lubricant, RELAX can make your experiences more comfortable and enjoyable with less mess.

Mixgliss BIO Natural Lubricant

Mixgliss RELAX - Anal Lubricant

Every type is available right now from our website (just click an image above) or in-store. Priced at only $20, each 50ml flip-top bottleis presented in a beautiful little box – making it stylish in the bedroom and cute as a button for a cheeky little present.