Archive for November, 2010

Advice: Low Density Love vs High Density Love Part 2

Monday, November 29th, 2010

This article is courtesy of Dr Michael Wayne, a modern natural health therapist who established Quantum-Integral Medicine…

In yesterday’s article I began to dissect this crazy little thing called love.

I said how these are complicated topics, full of pitfalls and entanglements, mishaps and risks, and also much bliss and happiness.

I love you - in sign language

I love you - in sign language

I also said how it’s the arena in which we can become most vulnerable, in which our deepest intimacies can become known; it can also be the arena in which our buttons are pushed to the max.

So let’s delve deeper into it. I’ll also explain why I believe that people who live a Low Density Lifestyle have a better chance of entering into lasting relationships and having better sex.

We are all social animals, and everyone desires to have a social network of friends, family, loved ones and significant other that you desire to spend time together with.

Strong relationships are a vital component of a healthy and happy life, while negative relationships can impact health and happiness in a detrimental manner.

When you are living a Low Density Lifestyle, you are naturally attracted to other people who are also living a Low Density Lifestyle, and it is these people who will make up your most intimate social network. If you feel centered, balanced and in the flow, you won’t readily enjoy the company of people who live a completely opposite lifestyle, as it will just be too jarring to your soul.

Interestingly though, people who live a High Density Lifestyle will be naturally attracted to those who live a Low Density Lifestyle, because the calmness and peacefulness of someone living a Low Density Lifestyle is something that can help to balance and center someone living a High Density Lifestyle.

It can actually be a profoundly transformative experience if someone living a High Density Lifestyle allows themselves to open up to the energies and calming influence of someone living a Low Density Lifestyle. So this is truly one case of opposites attracting!

But the tricky thing is that for those living a Low Density Lifestyle, the desire is to have happy and harmonious relationships, and they will go out of their way to find them and to reject relationships that create unhappiness and disharmony.

So it’s not impossible for people on opposite ends of the spectrum to come together—after all, the chemical bond of love transcends all boundaries and overcomes all limitations—it’s just that if you want to have a sustaining and lasting relationship, there needs to be a bonding of two souls, one in which each person can gaze into the other’s eyes and see the reflection of the deep and infinite waters of the Zero-Point Field, which is the origins of universal love and consciousness.

Communication is a big part of a relationship, and failure to communicate is a major reason for breakups. To be able to communicate, each party in a relationship needs to feel loved and safe. Each person in the relationship also has to let go of expectations and not judge or criticize the other, but instead help them to feel comfortable being able to communicate.

Communicating your deepest and most intimate thoughts and feelings is not easy, but if you feel safe and loved, and feel that what you say won’t be held against you, then it is easier to speak from your heart. This happens easiest when both people in the relationship are living a Low Density Lifestyle.

If one or both people in the relationship are living a High Density Lifestyle, then it’s a lot harder, because there’s no feeling of safety in expressing intimate thoughts. These are the relationships that are doomed to fail.

Another important part of a strong and lasting relationship is the sex life. Because those living a Low Density Lifestyle are healthier and more balanced, less stressed and more in the flow, they have the capability of having a strong sex drive and having better sex.intimacy-sex-couple2

They understand that sexual desire is a natural biological urge, as opposed to a feeling that one should be ashamed of or should repress. They know that sex, and orgasm, make both parties feel good and is a vital part of making love. In addition, sex allows for intimacy and expressions of love, and these are things cherished by those living a Low Density Lifestyle.

For many people living a High Density Lifestyle, the only time when they’re able to relax and feel comfortable having sex is when they imbibe in alcohol or recreational drugs, because these allow them to relax their inhibitions and feel less stressed.

Although sex can be very enjoyable when performed in an altered state, an important part of the sexual experience is the feeling of intimacy that one person has with another, because in that state of intimacy, a strong bond is formed between both people and the flow of love, happiness and joy circulates and is expressed between them.

When a person is having sex in an altered state, the flow is impeded. But unfortunately, for many people living a High Density Lifestyle, having sex while in an altered state is the only way they can get full enjoyment of the act of making love.

Another great aspect of sex is that it increases your chances to be healthier and happier. People who have a regular sex life have been found to have a decreased risk of heart disease and stroke, a decrease in pain in the body, and an increase in life span.

These are enormous motives for having a healthy sex life, but the reality is that in order to have a healthy and happy sex life, it is best that both people involved live a Low Density Lifestyle.

Advice: Low Density Love vs High Density Love Part 1

Sunday, November 28th, 2010

This article is courtesy of Dr Michael Wayne, a modern natural health therapist who established Quantum-Integral Medicine…

Relationships, Love and Sex.

These are complicated topics, full of pitfalls and entanglements, mishaps and risks, and also much bliss and happiness.

It’s the arena in which we can become most vulnerable, in which our deepest intimacies can become known; it can also be the arena in which our buttons are pushed to the max.

relationshipsIt is a risk to enter into a relationship with another, to fall in love, and to have sexual relations with another, because the heart is the most fragile of organs.

Many a person has fallen in love only to have their heart broken, and then to swear off ever being in love again; they put a shield around their heart, and enclose it so that it becomes difficult for them to easily feel again.

Being in a relationship and in love is when you are challenged to be the most brutally honest, because it is when your heart and soul is touched by another. You are then forced to either get in touch with your own deepest feelings, or else run away and bury those feelings deep down within.

Everyone wants to be loved, but you also need to know how to love. It takes opening your heart, authenticity, the ability to communicate, compassion, tenderness, understanding, the letting down of your guard, the lessening of expectations, and the ability to be humble and not let your ego take control.

In another words, this love thing is a tall order.

Many books exist on the subject, but even the experts are not always expert – for instance, noted relationship author and expert Barbara De Angelis has been married five times.

Obviously, getting the love thing down can be complicated.

Life is messy, full of chaos and unpredictability, and so even the best of relationships can be messy. The map of the human heart has many roadblocks and detours along the way.

It is my belief, and I will delve into this with tomorrow’s article, that the more of a Low Density Lifestyle you live, the better your chances of finding a lasting relationship, especially if it is with another person who also lives that way. That is because when two people come together who both live a Low Density Lifestyle, there is a sense of calm and inner peace already within the relationship, leading to less potential for possible friction that can cause problems.

Now, you can work on yourself till the cows come home, but the real test comes when you’re in a relationship, when love comes knocking on your door, and when you have the closest and most intimate of all encounters, the experience of sex, because this is when we are fully tested.

sex jpgSex, especially, is a subject that is often considered taboo and not to be talked about in polite circles. Granted, you don’t want to be shouting off a rooftop about your sex life, nor is it necessary to talk about it with everyone you meet. After all, it is a personal matter.

But we are a sexually repressed culture, afraid to fully express our primal needs and enjoy the full pleasures of sex.

On my intake form that I have my patients fill out at their initial appointment, I have an area that I ask how they feel about their personal lives, work, family, diet and sex life. I ask people to rate it, from great, to good, fair and poor. Most of my patients rate their sex life fair or poor. A small number rate it good, and a tiny fraction call it great.

But it shouldn’t be that way. After all, it is the most natural of acts.

Again, I believe the more of a Low Density Lifestyle a person leads, the better their sex life. I’ll revisit this in more depth tomorrow,  so tune in then.

If you’d like to know more about high and low denisty lifestyles, check out Dr Wayn’es website here.

News: Sex Toys Are Not Weapons

Saturday, November 27th, 2010

A woman from Gurnee faces charges of aggravated assault for threatening an officer with a “rigid female pleasure device.”

Carolee Bildsten, 56, allegedly walked out Tuesday on her tab at Joe’s Crab Shack in Gurnee for a second time, which led the restaurant to call the police on the suspected tab jumper.

Image: Carolee Bildsten

Carolee Bildsten

Officers found an allegedly intoxicated Bildsten lying on the grass down the street and approached her to investigate the unpaid tabs. She claimed her money was at home and said she would retrieve it to pay the bill, prompting officers to provide an escort. What happened at the apartment, well, the actual police report says it best:

“She walked into her bedroom. She said her money was in her dresser drawer and she opened it and reached inside and removed a “clear, rigid feminine pleasure device” and held it over her head and approached the officer in a threatening manner. The officer knocked the device out of the way prior to being struck and placed the woman under arrest. She was then escorted out of the residence, placed in the squad car and transported to the Gurnee Police Department.”

Bildsten was taken into custody and charged with one misdemeanor count of aggravated assault and theft. Additionally, she faces an ordinance violation for pedestrian under the influence, and for acquiring a service without payment.

Bildsten was released on bond and is to appear in court on Dec. 6 at the Lake County courthouse.  Hopefully without her toys and with a lawyer.

NEW LELO INSIGNIA IS HERE!

Wednesday, November 24th, 2010

There are days when it seems like we have the best job in the world – days like today.

Inside our delivery boxes this morning was the VERY FIRST shipment of LELO Insignia pleasure objects in Australia – and we got to open them!

These are the most hotly anticipated toys of the year with sensual styling, functionality and quality that is second to none – plus they have to be some of the sexiest vibrators we have ever had the PLEASURE to play with.

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LELO Alia - Compact and Versatile. Perfect for couples play. Ideal to enhance oral pleasure.

So what’s so great about the new range? Hmm, where do we start?

There’s the new designs – gleaming metal meets silky, seam-free silicone in a variety of budoir colours (yes even the guys will love these) plus each new design features the ‘ring’ which will make handling and play oh so much easier and tactile.

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LELO Isla - Deeper pleasure that is built for men and women alike!

Ergonomics – The ‘ring’ is a fundamental change we’ll see lots of other companies copy as it allows for a more natural hold on the toy, making for more comfortable and targeted handling. LELO have also ensured the new infinate control panel is positioned in such a way that when the thumb is put through the handle the index finger rests easily on the controls.

Then there’s the new motor – LELO did an overhaul of the already great motors in their toys to deliver vibrators that are higher frequency, deeper feeling and whisper quiet.

How about the battery? Like all LELO products the Insignia range is fully rechargeable – so no more battery shopping (or remote control raiding). The new battery charges faster too and holds it’s charge for almost 30% longer!

Insignia are waterproof! These are LELO’s very first rechargeable waterproof toys – so now you get the eco choice and you can play where you like.

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Lelo Soraya - The most luxurious rabbit vibrator ever made?

It comes with jewellery. Yes, each Insignia vibe comes with a pretty little infinity pin. Makes us feel like we belong to a very exclusive group of men and women who are in the ‘know’.

It’s Beautifully Packaged – every Insignia comes in its own gorgeous presentation box that makes us feel like we’ve gone shopping at Chanel or Tiffany’s. MB will also giftwrap any Insignia purchased for Christmas too so it’s the Holiday gift that comes ready to give (and please).

Simply put – They feel awesome, they look amazing, and every staff member at MB has one on their Christmas list.

FUN: Vajazzled!

Wednesday, November 24th, 2010

We love a good fashion trend – skinny jeans, leather ties, silk restraints – if it’s sexy or new or yummy we want it.  This latest news from the LA LA land however has sparked a little debate amongst the ladies (and our one gent) at MaXXX Black.

In the early 90’s the BeDazzler (left) took the home-craft crowd by storm. Millions of the little blue fabric punch that could attach sparkly beads to fabric were sold around the world. You may of thought it had gone the way of cheap steak knives and wearable blankets but it endures – still being made for all the lovely people who are easily distracted by shiny things (including myself).

What you may not know is that with the advent of 21st century technology the Bedazzler of the past can be the Vajazzler of today!

Vajazzling is sweeping north America as the latest body/beauty craze and the product’s inventor has quadrupled business since formally opening their doors earlier this year.

So What is Vajazzling?

It’s the bedazzling of one’s lady bits (or manly bits if you’re brave).

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Yes that’s right, for a mere $50 you can have a local Vajazzler adorn your woohoo with Swarovski crystals. And thanks to Jennifer Love Hewitt’s appearance on the George Lopez Show (click the link for the video) the butterfly is the most popular design.

The crystals are glued onto the pubic area and vulva (leaving the labia untouched) after a full brazillian wax. The tech’s website does not describe how it is applied to a man but hey, it is called the VAjazzler.

Advice: Quantum Intimacy – The Workshop

Tuesday, November 23rd, 2010

End the Battle of the Sexes with this one day workshop for couples:

On Sunday 28th November, Frances Amoroux ( the LoveCoach) will be holding her Quantum Intimacy: New Man, New Woman workshop for couples – right here in Sydney.

From Frances:

Why do we presume there is a ‘battle between the sexes’? And if there is one –  is it natural, is it necessary, and could there be ways to end the war???

Much of our attitude to the differences between the sexes has been shaped by millennia of of a ‘Dominator’ ideology that clearly defines the roles of men and women…and therefore how they relate to each other.

Do we just throw up our hands in horror hoping to go back to the good ole days, or take it as a warning signal that its time for a change?
…to explore, and perhaps embrace the new wave of feminism
… the New Egalitarianism.

From LoveCoaching.com:

In this time of quantum change, relationships ain’t what they used to be, and many of us, are both confused and frustrated… and curious and excited.

We can either stay frozen in confusion – either giving up, or moving from one relationship to the next –  or utilise them as a crucible for inspired growth and transformation.

In this workshop we’ll explore these important questions:

• What is it to be a man or a woman in today’s world?

• How can we nurture and empower ourselves and each other as women and men?

• What is the growing edge for women… for men?

• How can we develop a more rich, vibrant and healthy sex life at every stage in our lives?

• How to use relationship as a crucible for spiritual growth

• How can we be more inclusive of the many different forms of relationships emerging?

The Details:

WHEN:              SUNDAY, November 28

TIME:                10:00am till 5:00pm

WHERE:             Toxteth Hotel    345 Glebe Point Road, Glebe SYDNEY.  (02) 9660 237  Upstairs in the Media room  http://www.toxtethhotel.com.au/   Map http://bit.ly/glebe-toxteth

PRICE:               $125 early-bird before Nov 22 – after that date, $150

WHO FOR:         Singles, Couples, Moresomes, anyone over 16.

BRING:               Notebook and Pens.

BREAKS:             Morning and Afternoon tea will be provided.

Lunch: At the pub or there are plenty of eating places in the area

PRESENTER:       Frances Amaroux (your Love Coach)

Find out more by following this link.

Gallery: Sensual Food Posters

Saturday, November 20th, 2010

Food is so much more than fuel – it ignites the senses and inspires us to discover new flavours, textures and experiences.

So it’s easy to understand why food is an obsession with so many of us – and why its so easy to make food seem sexual. Moist lips, anticipation, excitement – it’s all there.

The following gallery is some of the sexiest food inspired images we’ve come across.

The first 6 images are from Brandon Showers (left) a fashion photographer based in New York whose work has been seen in Vampd, Filter, and recently for Budweiser.

Bon Apetite!

Opinion: How To Compliment A Naked Man

Monday, November 15th, 2010

By John DeVore on theFrisky.com

How do you compliment a naked straight man? You don’t.  The Golden Rule of Sex is usually do others as you would have them do you, but not in this case. Women enjoy sincere compliments in the bedroom. Not over-rehearsed grunts or snippets of porno dialogue like “Oh baby, you’re so baby, baby.” In my personal experience, women also aren’t into dudes who’re effusive blabbercheeks. My poet’s heart was in the right place, but she informed me that I didn’t need to barf up bargain basement Byron.

No matter how you compliment us when we’re naked, we’re just not going to believe it. We’ll get suspicious, because most guys have totally different body issues than women.

Women are often at their most vulnerable when they’re lying fully naked next to a man, but this can be easily remedied by a spontaneous and enthusiastic whisper about her perfect breasts. That’s all that’s really needed. Because who doesn’t like a sweet, simple compliment? Men, that’s who. No matter how you compliment us when we’re naked, we’re just not going to believe it. We’ll get suspicious, because most guys have totally different body issues than women. When women look in the mirror, they focus on their flaws. But when men do it, we can’t help but see our awesomeness, illusory or not. Fat wrinkle or ab? AB! This is why during the summer, it’s always the hairy guys who look like two pumpkins in a condom who walk around topless in public.

When you compliment our naked bodies we can’t help but think “Yeah, and?”

Vanity is not the most masculine of vices. (Sweeping gender generalization alert: hello, and welcome to the internet. My name is John, and I recognize that each and every one of you is like my mom’s oatmeal cookies, distinctly lumpy, individually misshapen mouthfuls of deliciousness. If I could, I’d write each and every one of you a personalized blog rant replete with grammatical errors.) There is no gender bias when it comes to vice. I’d say men and women are pretty evenly matched when it comes to selfishness and other moral weaknesses. But there are some vices that the mass culture encourages in one sex more than the other. Vanity is an unhealthy concern with what other people think of you. I dare you to read a fashion magazine and tell me that the moral at the end of every issue isn’t “be the prettiest or no one will love you!”

As for men, we’re a prideful tribe. Boastful. Pride is having a high opinion of oneself, and having done nothing to earn that opinion. Pride is self-esteem with a facelift. To be prideful is to believe that your farts make the flowers bloom. Look at the celebrities society respectfully suggests we aspire to be like: beautiful actresses who eat single crackers with forks and knives and tightly coiled athletes who refer to themselves in third person. The message: women should be obsessed with how they are perceived and dudes should think they’re amazing simply because they know how to inhale oxygen and exhale carbon dioxide.

Complimenting a man’s naked body doesn’t really push the same pleasure centers as it does in a woman.  When we hear a compliment, we think, “Why is she telling me something I obviously already know? Is this some kind of nefarious subterfuge? Something is afoot!” Then the paranoia sets in. Men are less inhibited with being naked than women. But that doesn’t mean we’re any less insecure. It’s just that the spotlight doesn’t shine on us constantly. We’re less self-aware. Sure, we might stand naked in our window eating cereal.

But that’s because we don’t have magazines with cover lines that scream “Be Ashamed Of Your Jiggly Bits.”

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It might come as a shock to many of you, but I’m a pear, but one of those skinny Bosc pears, not one of those chubby Anjou or Bartlett kinds. So I have a belly, a healthy little bump with a Falstaffian jolliness about it. The crown jewel of my gut is my bellybutton, which is a half-outtie. Now, for years, I barely regarded this deformity. It just is, and on my best days examining it in the bathroom mirror I like to think that it’s some kind of ancient mark. At any moment in my life, a secret sect of Shaolin monks could burst into my office, lift my shirt, point at my half-outtie and declare “This is the One. The prophecy is true. He will slay the Thunder Dragon and bring 1,000 years of piece to the heavens!” But there was the girlfriend who would just not shut up about my “half-moon” bellybutton. I know she was just trying to make me feel better, but I was already feeling pretty great before she began to praise my screwy stomach dimple. She thought it was cute and she’d tell me… over and over and over again. It got to the point where if I could have spackled the thing closed with silly putty, I would have. I was totally comfortable with my bellybutton until it was paid far too much kindness.

Don’t compliment him when he strides into the bedroom wearing nothing but a sly grin. Resist announcing, “Here comes the monster wanger!” Don’t purr that he has a sick body, even if he does. He knows. And if he isn’t ripped, he still thinks he is. So don’t burst his bubble.

Some truths don’t need to be spoken, and some lies don’t hurt anybody.

FUN: LOVE in the E.U.

Friday, November 12th, 2010

We are all travelling much more than we did even 10 years ago.  We jet off to destination close and far for work, play and more – and the EU has become increasingly popular with the Aussie dollar so high. So naturally the sea of love has suddenly become much much bigger – so how do our EU brothers and sisters shape up?

There has been a lot of discussion whether Turkey should join the European Union or not. Well, we don’t know about politics, but when it comes to sex, things don’t work in their advantage. According to the university of Utrecht, Turkish men ejaculate faster than anyone else in Europe, with an average of 4,4 minutes.  Spanish men take about 4.9 minutes, Germans resist 6.5 minutes. And even though 40% of British guys suffer from premature ejaculation, they do quite a lot better than the other countries, with an average of 10 minutes!

So you might think it’s easy, this year you’ll try some British love. You might want to reconsider as the average Brit has had sex with 2.8 million people. Lloyd’s Pharmacy has developed a calculator system, called ‘Sex degrees of separation’ which calculates how many people you (indirectly) had sex with. Because if you sleep with someone, indirectly you also sleep with their previous partners and those people’s previous partners and so on. Makes you wonder, doesn’t it?

Enough about men, what about women?

If you’re into something a little less vanilla, you might want to book a holiday to the Netherlands. Fifty percent of the Dutch women claim they sometimes practise anal sex, and well over 40% of dutch women own  a pleasure object (more than double Australia’s reported average).  And if you like toys, it might be interesting to know that 6 out of 10 Belgian women prefer a purple vibrator.  Why? We don’t know – but it is also the most popular colour for sex toys at MaXXX Black. When it comes to the British, 75% of the women in a steady relationship say they prefer to drink a couple of glasses of wine before heading with their hubby to the bedroom. And 9 out of 10 never go on a first date without drinking something alcoholic before.

A Fun Map of the EU

But nothing beats the survey of Onepoll, who asked women from 20 countries to rate their experiences with other nationalities, and clarify their answers. So, who are the worst lovers? Russians and Germans! Russians are said to be too hairy, while Germans smell bad. Also, avoid the Greeks (too sentimental) and Scotsmen (too rough). But of course, what is more interesting is the list of best lovers! The top five exists of Irish (those flushed cheeks are not because of the fresh air), French (Mon amour), Italians (Ti amo!), and Brazilians (Because they do it to the rhythm of the Samba? – how did they even make it into this EU list anyhow?) and the first prize goes to… Spain! Apparently, a Spanish lover is the best you can get! (according to this article anyway)

Think about it: a hot, sunny afternoon on a pleasant beach with tanned, muscled boys with dark hair and mysterious eyes who invite you for a drink in a bar near the sea.  Or, stunning brunettes with long hair, sensual moves and endless eyes.

So if you’re thinking of a European vacation why not one of the destinations above – you never know, it could be the best sex of your life! Now that’s R & R.

[from malaga.com]

FOR MEN: New Workshop from Jacqueline Hellyer

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

Get The Sex Education You Never Had

Our resident sex expert Jacqueline Hellyer is running a workshop JUST FOR GUYS!

Let’s face it, you never did get very good sex education, you’ve had to figure it out yourself, but how well have you done? You want to be the best lover you possibly can be –  a blackbelt in the bedroom.

I’ve actually got a blackbelt, so I like the analogy. And the martial arts are surprisingly like sex, in terms of feeling and flowing with the energy of your partner.

Think of this as the sex education you never had.

We’ll be looking at sex from a scientific point of view as well as an energetic point of view, using Taoist and Tantric concepts which are really applicable to sex in the modern world.

You’ll learn to embody the four ‘C’s of the true Blackbelt in the Bedroom: connected, confident, creative and in control.

Experiential activities develop:

  • Breath, Presence & mindfulness
  • Lasting longer
  • Circulating sexual energy
  • Sensory awareness
  • Sexual creativity
  • Holding the space

Click on the date to book:

Blackbelt in the Bedroom 30 November 2010

Time: 6pm-9pm Cost: $97.00 per person
Venue: The Dome, Surry Hills, Sydney
(corner of Cleveland and Crown Streets, in the Crown Hotel.)
Download flyer.

Planned dates for 2011:
28 February
9 May
8 August
14 November

If you need more information, please feel free to contact Jacqueline, and she will get back to you to answer your questions.

Here are a couple of photos from a recent Info Evening:

You can read testimonials from previous attendees at our events section HERE.